Over dinner with friends, of course love and relationships is part of the dinner conversation. We talked about experiences regarding broken hearts, awkward love situations, etc. A recent experience gave me the wonderful phrase: Be the main dish, not the side dish.
Mama B’s definition of a side dish is something or someone who is replaceable. You can have as many sides as you want at different times. You are pretty much temporary. There is no certainty that you could get chosen. You are just one of many. NOT THE WAY TO GO.
The main dish is something that is #1. You need it and want it. The relationship meal is not complete without the main dish. You love it and you don’t need anything else to compliment it. It just is.
What I mean by this Mama B-ism is that: Do not settle by having someone play with your heart and emotions. You deserve to love and be loved. Value yourself and realize that you deserve to be the main event, not something on the side.
For Example: You want to be the steak, not the mashed potatoes that could be replaced with french fries that could be replaced with asparagus that could be replaced with green beans.
Or you have the option of picking two sides. You pick two sides, asparagus and mashed potatoes (but french fries and green beans get hurt and left out)
You want to be the Steak in this scenario.
This goes for the ladies and the guys. Be the main dish, not the side dish. Sometimes food is the way I reference life situations. Don’t question the analogy. Just live like you are the main dish, not the side dish.
P.S. Side dishes should be for lunch and dinner, not love and relationships.