The holiday season is STILL in full swing. As a single person, depending on what’s going on in life, it can be tough being “just you with no plus one.” Friends get engaged, family ask why you are still single, holiday specials and movies that make you wish you had someone, holiday parties without a plus one, etc.
But DO NOT FRET!! Single People, I have tips for your worries about this season.
- Wear your singlehood with pride when family and friends question you. Talk about the other blessings you have now because something eventful probably happened to you. Talk about school, a hobby, work, just something else besides your relationship status. A relationship is not the sum total of your life. Your life is interesting. If you dig deep and realize that you are more than your relationship status, then wearing your single banner with pride will not make you feel bad when your friends and family intentionally or unintentionally question “Why/How are you still single?” Smile, tell them you still single, and tell them what is going on in your fabulous single life.
- Give back to people who do not have the things you have. The holidays can be hard for people who are alone (not just single but they do not have anyone). Give back to others. Show a little extra kindness. Giving back does something to you and to another. A simple thing is giving out handwritten Christmas cards. It may be small but it could mean a lot to someone (believe me…I have seen it before).
- Give yourself a gift. Yes I said it!! Treat yourself to a nice present this holiday season. I started this tradition two years ago. I wanted to buy a ring for myself rather than wait for my husband to give me. It started to turn into a beautiful symbol of my journey as a single lady. Plus, it is good to spoil yourself every now and then.
- Rest. Easier said than done but do rest. You do not have to sleep but do something as a form of relaxation. Read a book for fun, sleep, Netflix (and be happy), etc.
- Enjoy the blessings around you. Like I said in #1, single life is still a blessed life. Enjoy your family and friends. Enjoy the provision God has blessed you with. Do not take it for granted.
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!!