I usually I don’t think of my race until someone points it out.
You are the nicest black person I have met.
You are well-spoken for a black person.
You’re not like those other black people.
I’m not a racist..I mean I’m friends with Bianca.
It almost seems we became friends because of my exterior rather than the interior. And there have times I have been an excuse for ignorance. Like they permit themselves to use my name to “save” their behavior.
It’s not like I say I have “white, asian, (fill in the blank) friends as prize of diversity. I chose to see character over countenance. I don’t make friends based a diversity checklist. I am not your exception to your ignorance and stereotypical bias. I don’t want to be your “only black” friend in an argument. Can’t I just be your friend!?! It makes me question your intentions and character. So stop. Stop using my skin color to make a point.