The Modern Proverbs 31 Woman Hustler

The Modern Proverbs 31 Woman Hustler

She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.-vs. 13-19

Let’s just take a moment to notice Ms. Proverbs 31 was about that hustle and about that coin. 

I always admire women who take charge. The verbs in this passages: She selects, she brings, she gets up, She consider (or to me surveys), She sets, She sees, She holds, She grasps.

There have been times in my life where dinosaurs (i.e. patriarchal, jerky men) have said: a woman’s place is at home. The men do business. Or women should who have careers are bad mothers because they are neglecting their responsibilities. Well excuse me for not caring…the Proverbs 31 woman worked inside and outside the home. She is taking care of her children but she is also getting that coin. She wakes up early to handle her affairs with her family and servants before she heads out.

I have always asked women professionals, “Can women have it all: The husband, the children, the career?” Most of them have said yes and no: There must be a balance, there will be sacrifices, there will be ups and downs but you have to prioritize what is important. Fair enough answer.

A Proverbs 31 woman in my life went to nursing school with three children under the age of 10 (two children with disabilities), a part-time job as a pharmacy technician, a mortgage and a husband. Did people doubt and scold her because she wanted to a nurse? Yes. Did she have people tell her that she was crazy, that she had two sick children, that what kind of mother leaves her children behind to go to school, that english is her second language? Of course. But you know what? That God that was in her was greater than the critics around her. And she became a registered nurse by God’s power. That woman is my mother.  She would make sure food was on the table. She made it to almost every chorus concert I was in. She would pay for school lunch and my school supplies. BUT she also was studying long hours. She would wake early to head to school and clinicals. She hustled and did it.

And you know what? My mom’s career has helped our family and extended family in their medical care. So she did not go wrong going to school. It actually made the difference in our family.

A woman can hustle anywhere and can do anything to make it. Some women make their full-time job to raise the children  and look after the household (which should be a high-ranking job in itself). Some women work inside and outside the home. Some women work outside the home and the husband takes care of the household. One woman is not better than the other.  Don’t diminish one category. Let it be celebrated. Each woman living up to her God-given role.

A Modern Proverbs 31 Woman Hustler works hard wherever she is: no matter if it’s for herself, for her family, or for her boss.

Blissfully,

Bianca

 

See You Later

See You Later

When God has the plan, you must do your part. 

You must work for your success.

Sacrifice in the short term for success in the long haul.

As of today, Blissfully Bianca will be on hiatus for me to focus on my Bar studies. This is not goodbye forever. I will be back at the end of July. God really convicted me on this and has used people to call me out on my distractions. If I want victory and success, then I have to fight with everything I have.

The Bar is a tough, scary monster but I know all things are possible through Jesus. I know He has a plan and a purpose for me. But I need to be obedient, make tough decisions, and make tough sacrifices.

You have all been such a great, fun community of friends. I will miss your presence and all of your stories. Keep reading my posts. They are still there to encourage and uplift you. You have been a beautiful distraction to me. Love you all.

You are worthy in God’s eyes.

God has a plan and purpose for you.

Keep encouraging yourself and each other.

Live and be thankful each day.

Be unapologetically and blissfully you.

 

Blissfully,

Bianca

 

 

 

The Modern, Fashionable Proverbs 31 Woman

The Modern, Fashionable Proverbs 31 Woman

In this day in age, beauty is everywhere. Beauty blogs, beauty tutorials, beauty ads. What’s in what’s out. Beauty transformations. The smoky eye. How to blend your foundation using an egg. So many brands, so little money. Gotta look on fleek, flawless, sexy. Gotta not look like a zombie. Whether it’s for a lover or that family member who says “You would look so much better if you just put some makeup on.” So you thrive to look your best.

Clothes…let’s not get started. You gotta look put together. Sweatpants could be considered as lazy. Gotta look professional. What size am I? Does this store carry my size? Why do I need to show more skin/less skin? Why does that person look better in that than me? If I were only smaller, fuller, had bigger (fill in body part).

Let’s be real, ladies. It take so much to feel pretty and worthy according to the beauty standards. It’s a lot of pressure. Even as a upcoming attorney, I have to dress the part and look close to an “Olivia Pope” attorney. It’s just hard. Now I am not saying that all women should NOT be a hot mess. I’m just saying..it’s hard in these streets.

Thankfully, Jesus does not determine if a woman is worthy based on her looks.

Proverbs 31 states:

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. vs. 25-26

“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.-vs. 29-30

Being clothed in good character never goes out of style. God believes in beauty from the inside out. Strength and dignity is confidence you wear no matter how you look, what color you are, what size you are. Wisdom is something to gain and attain as a fashionable accessory. A good word never goes out of style. An uncompromising woman of the Lord is worthy in her own right. A woman who humbles herself before God will be “youthful” and beautiful from the inside out.

If you have a beauty routine, don’t feel bad. If you don’t have a beauty routine, don’t feel bad. This is not a bashing of one ideal. Just know you have choices in life. God’s beauty standards are different than man’s beauty standard. God created woman in His image as well.

A modern, fashionable, Proverbs 31 is beautiful based on her God-given character that radiates from the inside out.

Uncompromising

Blissfully,

Bianca

Eve, The First Lady

Eve, The First Lady

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”-Genesis 2:18

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”-Genesis 2:23-24

Women, we are needed in this world. No matter what marital status you are, you are needed. God made women capable to help, to assist, to work alongside the people we love in our life. We are a part of the fabric of life.

In the Easton’s Bible Commentary, the commentator Matthew Henry says: “This companion was taken from his side to signify that she was to be dear unto him as his own flesh. Not from his head, lest she should rule over him; nor from his feet, lest he should tyrannize over her; but from his side, to denote that species of equality which is to subsist in the marriage state.” 

An important thing to know is that God rules over our lives.He is the one who defines and purposes us in this world. We are not second-class citizens to be looked down upon. But, we can’t think we can do everything as God can. There are some roles and positions that God designed a man to do. There are some roles that God designed a woman to do. There are roles where God is designed to plan and execute exclusively.

I know what you are thinking..”Bianca, that’s sexist and patriarchal. Didn’t you say a woman can be anything she wants to be!?!

Yes, a woman can be anything. My point is: As a helper to the people in our lives, God will not call us to be the boss, judge, and jury over humanity, but a helper toward the greater goal or purpose.

Before Eve came along, Adam was alone. He was in Paradise naming animals, living life, and enjoying God. But God knew that he needed someone to navigate life with, someone like him who would be vital to his well-being. I bet you that Adam was going to name an animal something crazy and maybe Eve said, “Honey, what about this name?” Maybe Eve was the reasoning behind rhinoceros (You never know).  I bet you Eve brought a different perspective but was not domineering or micro-managing. She probably knew when to voice her opinion and when to step back.

For me, I like to preach a lot (as you can tell). I like to be the “Female Savior,” “The Fixer,” “The Bossy One.” Growing up, I was the bossy child (oldest of three). The kid in class who wanted to be the “Mom” in playtime because I knew I could boss everyone around. I would give people my advice and help myself into people’s situations. As a result, my “help” would be taken the wrong way and people would be offended and hurt. I had to learn to take a step back. God will give me the ability to help and the words to say, but not every circumstance calls for my full “help.” Sometimes God calls me to listen to a friend, to encourage a friend with scripture or an inspirational quote, to hug and hold the person, to just pray with and for them. Sometimes I am called to help by being silent. Yes, God calls us to be silent sometimes.

In spite of Eve’s faults, she helped in the best way she could according to her Savior. To help means listening to God’s instruction to effectively act and work alongside our families, our employees, our friends, and strangers we encounter. Let us follow that example instead what we feel is best.

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Blissfully,

Bianca

A Standard To Live Up To

A Standard To Live Up To

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One of the greatest standards of Womanhood is the Proverbs 31 Woman. It’s like every guy wants her and every girl wants to be her. It’s like the HOLY GRAIL to Womanhood.

I would wreck myself trying to be “the perfect woman.”  The perfect woman for marriage and life in general. REAL TALK: It does not exist. I am not perfect.

Well ladies, I want to give you all a restart. A fresh take on the Proverbs 31 Woman every Thursday in March. God made you and me uniquely with a certain set of skills and qualifications. We should not be boxed into societal expectation. Grow according to the Father. God gives us guidance to mold and fashion us into the women we want to be. So the Proverbs 31 Woman is a guide for women: to hustle, to give, to love, to fashion herself.

So join this ride with me as we take a Modern Look at the Proverbs 31 Woman. It starts next Thursday!

Restart

Blissfully,

Bianca