I am writing as a Bible-believing Christ follower. This is my honest opinion towards the subject. I hope you read this in its entirety. I will not please the world with what I say but it’s my truth in the matter.
All the names are fake names. Only I know the real person’s name in each description.
Jack– I was a 7th grader and he was an 8th grader. He was the sweetest, kindest guy in my middle school chorus program. All the girls loved him. I secretly wanted him to be my boyfriend. I even told my friend that I want him to be my boyfriend. She told me how I was not his type.
I asked, “What do you mean?” She said how “Jack likes boys.” “What? Boys can like boys?” I responded. My friend responded, “Yes, they can.” That was my first experience with the gay person.
Alice– She was a high school freshman like me. She was a punk, emo girl who barely came to class. If she did, she looked high or strung out. She had a girlfriend one moment, then within a few weeks she was with a boy.
My thought process was “so you can like both? How can you love both?” I then learned what a bisexual was.
I grew up in a Christian home. I did not know these terms or types of people until middle school and beyond. I believed in Jesus. In church, I was taught that God created love and marriage between a man and a woman. In my faith, I was taught to hate sin. So in my legalistic mind, I thought I was to hate the bad sinners. I thought I had to stay away from them before they affect me too.
But in the other part of my mind, the gay people I encountered were so nice. I was conflicted as a young Christian. Yes, I was to hate sin but how do I love these people. I grappled with this dilemma for a long time.
The Crossroads Moment
It wasn’t until my junior year of college when I met my roommate, Tanya, My side of the room had scripture on the wall and when she came to the room, I guess she realized she needed to tell me she was a lesbian. When she told me, she told me “listen, I see you are a Christian and I am gay so I will understand if you don’t want to my roommate.”
Wow, that hurt.
It’s like she already knew the “Christian script:” You’re going to hell if you don’t change.
It struck me…I’m not like that. I would not bluntly tell someone that. How would someone accept Christ if a Christian said that?
Could I have changed roommates? Yes.
Did I? No.
She really did challenge me. She was a cool person. We had meaningful conversation about our faiths, her story, and my story.
She did grow up as a Christian but she thought she was gay. There is still family that she has not told. There was a deep traumatic event that altered her perception of men. I shared Jesus with her. She took it at face value. And we lived together for a semester.
After my junior year, my perception started to change. Life brought more and more people from all spectrum. I took time to listen to them, not every story is the same. People from my past started coming out…some were a shock, some were not.
I stopped thinking I should not disassociate and rebuke them. Most people already knew “what Christians would say.”
But I started realizing that I am a sinner just like them and yet Jesus died for all our sins. We all have temptations and sins that are hard to overcome. It is a personal choice on whether to give in to those temptations.
In my second year of law school, the church I was attending had a guest speaker, Sy Rogers, a preacher who left the LGBTQ community who gave his life to Christ. He even said that even now, he struggles with that sin but still holds on to Christ. He has a wife and children. While God renewed him, he expressed how celibacy while wrestling with same sex attraction is also a victory. I know do not the struggle personally but I do understand people who are trying to follow Christ and his teachings. By no means, do I discount the struggle but I know God will help facilitate and give a person a way out.
God can heal and restore a person’s heart to love the way God intended it to be. But it is an individual choice. A Christian cannot make that choice for them. Only God can change an individual’s heart.
This is not an easy solution. I am still working this part out with every person I meet.
To me, I believe the Bible in its entirety: Old Testament and New Testament. God’s Word does not change with time, it stands with time. Homosexuality is a sin. Marriage is between a man and a woman. God designed and displays marriage between a man and a woman. That will not change.
I base my belief on these verses: Romans 1:26-28, 1 Timothy 1:8-11, Mark 10:6-9, 1 Corinthians 7:2, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Leviticus 20:13
I am sinner. There are sins in my life that I fight to overcome. Sin is sin. Yes, we all sin differently and no sin is bigger than another. But sin still separates us from God.
No, I don’t believe America is going to hell or any tragedy occurred because of gay people (all are sinners remember…).
No, the LGBTQ do not deserve to be hate crime victims. Like I said as Christians, we are not judge, jury, or punisher. We are called to love as Christ loves where people are. The Pulse Nightclub Shooting broke my heart and my heart still hurts for the lives lost and their friends and family. I prayed that for the community to people to be comforted by the Savior and to find peace that only He can give. The suicide rate for this community hurts my heart. No one should feel less of a human being to point where they do not value their lives. I don’t wish the pain and prejudice on any one of these people. The LGBTQ community are valued in God’s eyes. He still died for them too.
No, I don’t believe the LGBTQ community should be denied healthcare, legal representation, or any necessities. I would gladly feed, clothe, counsel, hug, and love them even if we have different views. Love your neighbor as yourself.
I will never say to someone “You are going to hell.” Last time I checked we are all destined for hell. We are all sinners. Jesus saved us all. I am not called to be judge and jury of anyone but I am called to be a light and share the love and truth of Jesus Christ.
But I Chose Love
Just because I have those convictions does not mean I don’t talk to my friends in the community. I have friends and people in life who are in the LGBTQ community. One of my favorite teachers. Medical professionals who have treated my sister. A law school colleagues. Many other beautiful people I encounter. They are wonderful, kind people. I don’t disregard them or curse them for their choice. But if they ask me what I believe, I would tell them in a loving way that I am a Bible-believing Christian and I don’t believe in homosexuality but I will love them where they are in life.
I will love them they way Christ loves them. I have my convictions and beliefs but I love them. God calls us to love our neighbor as ourselves. God created them too. God died for them too. I will not hate them for the choices they have made. I will love them where they are and let God will do the rest.
Like I said, there is not an easy solution but I am willing to learn and grow more. So I have challenged myself with reading more about Christianity and Homosexuality. A great friends of mine suggested: Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Alberry, Same-Sex Attraction and the Church by Ed Shaw, Space at the Table by Brad and Drew Harper , The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert and The Gospel Comes With a House Key-by Rosaria Butterfield. I continue to pray and seek guidance on this topic. Finally, what I want to show the LGBTQ community and everyone is the Father’s love, to love as He loved and still loves His people.