The Modern Proverbs 31 Bride

The Modern Proverbs 31 Bride

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.-Proverbs 31:10-12, 23

I have been wondering how to approach this one. I thought of copping out and talking about my mom. I wanted to say this has nothing to do with me because I am single.

But then I thought to speak into existence me, Bianca, as a wife (scary…I know). I just want to put in existence what I would like to say to my husband. Not out of desperation but out of the scripture.

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So to my husband:

I hope I am the treasure you were waiting for. I know you have searched for me, talked to the Father about me, and have been counseled in finding me. I hope to be the treasure that you continue to pursue. Know that I will hold you down in good times and bad. Though only Christ can fill and satisfy your whole heart, may I fill your life with love, support, loyalty, happiness this side of heaven. I pray for the grace to do right by you. I pray for the wisdom to speak life into you and to remain silent when needed. Though you may upset me (and you will), I promise you extend grace as God gives me. I hope to make you proud. I hope you make the world jealous of our love as Christ is jealous for us. I promise to try. I promise to love. I promise to be yours. 

I spoke what I would say. It would be interesting if I got to say these words someday. But for now, I will leave it to Christ.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Empowered to Say No

Empowered to Say No

For most of my life, I have been a BIG people pleaser. I just always wanted to make people happy at the expense of my energy and time. I would find myself drained and empty because I wanted people to love me. Bianca can do anything.

I thought for most of my life if I said yes to people, events, and opportunities, then I would be blessed ten-fold by others.

NOT!!!

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I realized in my late 20’s that there were “friends” and “people” who I would climb mountains for when they would not go a step for me. I performed for people who could care less about me. I would give 110% when they gave -100%.

I would feel so bad inside. I would be burnt out. I would feel terrible. I would outpour everything without any inflow.

Well. Not. Anymore.

I say no or no thank you. And it feels good. Sometimes I need to take a step back. Sometimes I need to think and clear my mind. Sometimes I need to worry about myself. I need to be selfish.

Yes, it hurts but self-care is good care.

I’m not saying to say NO to everything. I’m not saying you expect everyone to give you what you give them. I’m saying be empowered by the time and moments where you have peace, silence, and self-care for yourself. 

I had to realize that I matter. There will be opportunities to grasp, events to attend, and ways to serve others.

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I know what you are thinking…but Bianca, that was my only chance.

NOPE, I don’t accept it.

You can be selfish to keep your sanity. But Bianca, what should I do? I’m glad you asked.

You can:

have a day to yourself,

get a mani/pedi,

read a book,

turn off your phone, social media and email,

turn off the tv,

take a nap, 

go outside

Be empowered in caring for your A1 since day 1, YOU!

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Blissful Art

My Blissful Art

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This was a joint birthday gift to my parents last month (yes, they have the same birthday). This was my first time doing two boards into one. The quote I used was: “What God has joined, let no man separate.” It was a special piece from yours truly. It was a labor of love and I may have had several panic moments but it worked out.
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This was a birthday present to one of my dear college friends. She is a nurse and a fine one I might add. I found this quote on Pinterest: God found some of the strongest women and made them nurses. I used some of her favorite colors and made this for her. She loved it. It matches with her room.
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This is me doing abstract floral art. I kinda just went with my artistic soul. No plan. Played around with different colors and floral types. I think it turned out well
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Piece one.
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Piece 2

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Empowered Black Girl Magic Self

My Empowered Black Girl Magic Self

On the grand stage of media, current events, and social media, I feel the frustration, anger, discrimination, and marginalization of being an African American and being a woman.

Having police called on African Americans who are living their own lives .

Women of color gone missing and no one is making a big deal about it.

Victims of sexual assault being ostracized for speaking their truth. 

The lack of criminal justice for minorities.–particularily unarmed African Americans shot by police officers.

The gender pay gap between men and women

The list goes on and on.

If you think that I am just complaining with violins and making excuses, I’m not. I am speaking from my perspective and based on the shoes I walk in every day. If you think I am lying, then you are part of the problem and in denial. Rub your eyes, clean your glasses, and look into the world we live in.

Some days I am so powerless of because the world’s rhetoric and attitude. It does give me anxiety. It makes me feel worthless. The words people say, post, and act on is so unbecoming…especially “Christians.” It’s like I am a walking target wherever I go.  I am not safe in my skin as a woman and as an African American.

But God…

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God says “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)  So even though I may feel worthless or powerless, God reminds me who I am and whose I am.  God made me uniquely as an African American woman “for such a time as this.” (Esther 4:14)

But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.-Isaiah 43:11

God called me to be Bianca. Though the world may say all it says, God calls me redeemed, wanted, and valued. That goes to every person on this Earth. You are redeemed in Christ. It does not matter if the world does not like you. God makes you worthy.

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.-Ephesians 2:10

God did not create me to be nothing. God created me for His purpose. I am skilled with gifts and talents for good. Though man may disqualify me, God established me, Bianca, to work, to provide input to humanity, to serve others, and to have a voice. All the things God creates in me, He uniquely made you for the same reason and purpose. You are somebody. 

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.-1 Peter 2:9

God never said white people are God’s chosen people. God does not say anything about a race being superior to anyone. No race has dominion over an entire people…that’s God arena. When I accepted Christ into my heart, I became His. God said, “You are chosen. You are mine.” With that, there is an eternal victory I have. Jesus paid that price to cover my faults and failures. Thus, I have a place in heaven with Him.

So I empowered by my physical features and gender because God made me uniquely. I am the Princess of a King. I have a voice. God did not create me to be silent but to work and hustle for His glory. I am not perfect but I am redeemed by the Savior of the Universe.

No man can cut down who God promotes.

There is no door God opens that man can shut.

So I use my God-created self to be awesome. Yes, I still get weird looks for being an outspoken woman or for being black, or being too ethnic. But it’s whatever. If God likes it, then imma be Bianca. I am empowered black girl magic.

And that’s it.

Blissfully,

Bianca

The Modern, Proverbs 31 Helping Hand

The Modern, Proverbs 31 Helping Hand

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She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.- Proverbs 31:20

A woman who gives sets the example of Jesus’s heart for service. I’m not talking about the family but other people. A giving spirit produces reward and blessings. Not saying that you do things for something in return but God sees the obedience to His will. You are an ambassador of Christ. What people see is what you give.

I am not the person I am today without my mother. She gave and still gives so much to others. She has given hospitality to relatives, to a pregnant woman in a domestic violence situation, survivors of the Haiti 2009 earthquake, and many other people. She uses her medical knowledge to benefit others even though my sister has her own medical problems. She goes on medical missions to share her gifts. She translates for Haitian immigrants and is willing to give time and energy to them. No matter what her life situation was, she served with all her heart. (Yes, she is amazing).

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I witnessed her servant’s heart. Yes, she told me about Jesus but she acted on what He is about. She always tells me: “Your gifts are not for you but for everyone.” She inspired me to practice immigration law when I am an attorney. To give to immigrant communities the way she does. I may not have the same spiritual gifts as my mom but I try to act as the hands and feet of Jesus. God gave me talents in music, art, and writing. So I share my gifts from the example of my mother.

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I’m not saying women need to do lavish acts of kindness and service. But use your gifts. Women are talented. Give according to Christ’s commands and the way God convicts you. If you are alive and breathing, you have talents and purpose. People need you. Not everyone can do what you do. Extend your giving to many and reap heaven’s rewards and blessings in your household and beyond.

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Blissful Art!

My Blissful Art!

Hi Friends. So this has been a long time coming but I am now posting my art. A busy schedule and fear kinda kept me from posting my art on my blog. I found all my art supplies recently (were in storage) and started getting creative. I love florals. So I started doing an abstract take on florals on a 3.5″ by 2.75″ (at least I think so…they are small canvas).  You can pair it or place it separately. Tell me what you think.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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Empowered Through Music

Empowered Through Music

Music has the power to transcend language and meet us where we are in life. I wanted to share what has been empowering me. I have had a lot of up and downs so I have been clinging to worship music.

  1. Lauren Daigle (Look Up Child)

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A very beautiful, soulful voice with real lyrics. You hear Lauren’s range and variety of genres she dabbles into. I was a fan of Lauren’s from her prior hits. I listened to this album on a whim (i.e. Youtube). I was hooked from the get go. God led me to this album for a reason. I found this album a week before I received my Bar results (Yup…needed). This album has taught me no matter how bad or good things get, it is important to look to the Lord. Not to be ashamed of my faults. Not to feel like God has left me. God is still good and faithful to His promises. I would love to tell you my favorite song but they are all my favorites.

I can give you a snippet of my favorites lyrics and description from each song:

“Rise up” Still Rolling Stones (like a better Christian version of Rolling in the Deep by Adele)

“I will send out an army to find You. In the middle of the darkest night
It’s true, I will rescue you”Rescue (One of those comforting songs with an awesome  gospel choir. This song encouraged me when I did not pass my exam)

“Oh, I know. I searched the world to find my heart is Yours. Oh, my heart is Yours. I searched the world to find my heart is Yours. Oh, my heart is Yours.”This Girl  (Taught me that my heart is God’s and how the world can’t satisfy me the way He does)

“You’re my covering. I’m safe, I’m safe. Whatever comes at me. I’m safe, I’m safe”Your Wings (A chill, reggae Christian song)

“You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing. You say I am strong when I think I am weak. You say I am held when I am falling short. When I don’t belong, You say I am Yours. And I believe. I believe. What You say of me. I believe.”- You Say ( Beautiful words that truly uplift me. I may not be ok but I am enough with Christ.)

“You give me everything I need”Everything (He provides all my needs)

“I cannot earn what You so freely give. What have I done to deserve love like this?”Love Like This (I am unworthy of God’s blessings.)

“Look up child”Look Up Child (Even in the valleys, look up to God. He’s got me)

“I’ve been an actor on a stage. Playing a role I have to play. I’m getting tired, it’s safe to say. Living behind a masquerade”Losing My Religion ( My testimony and my desire to think of my relationship with God rather than “religion”)

“I remember, I remember. You have always been faithful to me. I remember, I remember. Even when my own eyes could not see. You were there, always there”Remember (Thinking of His goodness even in the valley).

“And now this rebel heart belongs to You.”- Rebel Heart (A bluesy song about denying myself and turning heart to Christ)

“Ever running to what I can’t see. Fighting out of all my unbelief. Father, even then my song will be. I know You will always carry me.”Inevitable (Yup…realness. My life circumstances)

“Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face. And the things of earth will grow strangely dim. In the light of His glory and grace.”Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus (One of my favorite hymns. Daigle does this song with a twist and I love it).

I know God uses music to bring us closer to His truths. This album came at the right time. I am facing a valley, a step back, an uncertain turn. But God’s assurances are real in this album. I encourage you to listen and be empowered and uplifted.

Blissfully,

Bianca