Do not fret because of those who are evil
or be envious of those who do wrong;
for like the grass they will soon wither,
like green plants they will soon die away.
Trust in the Lord and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:1-4
I really love verse 4 in this passage, but I wanted you and myself to see the context from verse 1. If you are anything like me, I worry. I worry about the future to the point that I get anxious and get anxiety all at the same time. God knows my heart and your heart. He knows my desires and your desires (even when we do not know what we desire). It is easy to look at what everyone else has and be envious. You may even think God is not blessing you (like I have and still struggle with). But you know what? God is blessing you in the before, the in between, and the after. You and I must trust and daily deny ourselves that we can’t make all our desires come true. God blesses you with ALL desires of your heart in HIS TIMING. Yes, His timing not yours.
There are things in my life that I desire that I am STILL waiting on. But you know what? God has blessed me in the in-between and has blessed me in other areas in my life. So I want to encourage you that God has not forgotten you. He knows your heart’s desires. He also know what is best you even when you (and I) fuss about it. Take delight in your Savior. Be thankful for the love and blessings God has already given you.
Can I be real with ya’ll?
I have only been on 3 dates in my 26 years of life (Yes..it is true). Both of them were blind dates (I know…crazy). And you know what I felt so awkward. I never met them prior to the date. Mutual friends thought that we would be a great pair for whatever reason I do not know. And it was awkward….
It’s weird because I am a quirky, fun girl. But dates are not my forte. My no filter personality shows up and I become deathly quiet when I mess up (that is a strange thing). If I say something, it was something I should not have said.
On blind date #1, when he escorted me back to my dorm building, I whispered under my breath loudly “Have a great semester. Oh I shouldn’t have said that.” Of course, I thought he didn’t hear me but he responded saying “It’s ok. I guess.”
On blind date #2, we went to an art museum which was a hard date because I wanted to read everything and take in the exhibits. Too many long pauses. I tried to start and restart conversations. Our date felt more like a deposition than a date.
I kept beating myself up because I felt I would never find someone. My awkward dating skills will make me single and forever alone (dramatic, I know). But over time, I just had to learn that I am the way I am. My quirks are weird but that’s ok. My sister tends to tell me the guy I do date will find my interesting personality endearing and cute. But for now, I am just an awkward dater.
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.-1 John 3:16-18
It is not enough to say I am praying for you. It is not enough to say that you do not judge others. It is not enough to say I have love for all people. You have to show it. Jesus gave the ultimate declaration of love. He displayed his bruised and beaten body and took the punishment of sin and death. So you can’t just say words to show love. You have to act on it. It does not have to be a grand gesture. You can look someone in the eye and say hello. You can pray with your hurting friend. Give them a “I am thinking of you card.” If someone is in need, why not help them in their time of need. You are not doing works to be liked. You are serving God’s children. ALL OF GOD’S CHILDREN. In this uncertain time, why not display the love of Christ more than just a superficial word.
via Daily Prompt: Clean
The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it,
the world, and all who live in it;
for he founded it on the seas
and established it on the waters.
Who may ascend the mountain of the Lord?
Who may stand in his holy place?
The one who has clean hands and a pure heart,
who does not trust in an idol
or swear by a false god.-Psalm 24:1-4
A clean hand and pure heart means that you acknowledge that this is not your universe. God created the foundations of the world and you. God should be first in your life (easier said than done..I know.) But when you take yourself out of the picture and fill your life with God, you have clarity and wholeness that no “false idol or god” can give. The world is a different place when God is in the center of it. Pray for the clean hands and pure heart that only God can give you.
via Daily Prompt: Resist
So February is upon us. As a single person, your relationship status can stick out. So I want to boost your morale and give you 3 thoughts to resist.
- Resist the Thought:”I need to be in a relationship to have a good V-Day.” NO YOU DON’T!! There have been years where hanging out with friends and treating myself has been the best V-Day moments. Make plans for your single self. Treat Yo’ Self!!
- Resist doubting who you are. I took me many years to love and accept my spunky self. I am career-driven, I don’t play games with guys, and I have high standards. So that eliminates a lot of frogs. I still hold out hope that there is someone for me. But, for now, I Am Me. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
- Resist listing the things you don’t have. It is easy to say I am not getting flowers, I am not going to a fancy restaurant, no cute selfies and posts about my Valentine, etc. List the blessings you have. You probably already have an amazing life as a single person.
All in all, you are already awesome. If no one has told you that, well now you know!!
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.-John 3:16
It’s true!! God establishes love. He loved the world so much that He sent Jesus to save the world. Not just anyone, but His Only Son. In my life, I have messed up too many times to count. And, yet God still loved me enough to send Jesus. It is hard to fathom but it’s true. God meets you where you are. It does not matter who you are. He gives you His peace, His love, and His truth. You can spend the rest of your life with Jesus without fear of separation and divorce. He will not leave you nor forsake you. You can spend eternity with Him in Heaven.
So just in case you feel worthless, Don’t because He loves you!!
Can Mama B be real with you?
The older I get, the more I could care less about finding a mate. I have never been in a relationship before but I have been on blind dates before (another story for another time).
I remember from middle school to college, I dreaded love month because I knew that I was not going to receive a big teddy bear or roses or dinner plans. I would be so cynical when inside, I would be depressed that I was the single girl with friends in relationships, engaged, getting married.
I almost thought that something was wrong me. That I would end up being the old woman who lived in the old abandoned house at the end of the street (dramatic..yes). But that was then…
Fast forward to today, this will be my 26th Single V-Day. Does it bother me? Sometimes. Do I let overtake me? No.
My love life is one part of me. There are other parts of my life that I am thankful for. So, even though my singlehood shows, it does not make me less of a person if I were with someone.
I am in my last year of graduate school, I have my health, I have a great support system, I have Jesus (what more could a girl need). I kinda could care less if I had a boyfriend (but I do want a dog). He would just be a part of my already amazing life.
If I am in a relationship, great. If I am not in a relationship, that’s just fine too. To my single folks, you are doing great. You still have a purpose in life. If someone happens to be beside you, that’s great. If not, you are still great.