A Gentle Reminder

A Gentle Reminder

My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.-Galatians 2:20


I am not my own. When I gave my life to Christ, I did not know the depth of the commitment I chose. As I got older, God has shown me how being a Christian is not a title  that makes me better than someone else. It means that I am living for Jesus. Christ is the one who guides my steps, who convicts me through the Holy Spirit, and who is the hope I live for.

In whatever I do, God is using me for a bigger purpose than myself. It goes the same for you. You never know how God can use you and me in a day. You may not see the benefits today or tomorrow. Years can pass before I hear that someone was impacted because of something I did. Sometimes I do not remember…lol. But heaven was watching and glad. So

As a Christ-follower, you are an ambassador of Christ. You are not just you. You have purpose to live for a higher calling. It will not be perfect and easy. You and I will not get it perfect. But God has called us to be His hands and feet. We are commanded to serve and love as God loves us.

So live for Him.



A Gentle Reminder

A Gentle Reminder

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.-Proverb 3:5-6

BIG SHOCKER: Everything has not prevailed in the way I want, in the time I want, and how I want. God has managed to make my steady blueprint into a rollercoaster of life. 

With every major milestone, there is my “blueprint” that God has thrown away. He changes the course. Frustrates me. Sends people my way to tell me God has a plan and that the change is better. I have a come-to-Jesus meeting. Surrender little by little to His plan. Realize that God knows better and He is the captain and I am the passenger following by faith. 

I’m telling you..this is the process I go through. 


Even in my frustration, I am reminded of this scripture: To not lean on the expectations of my blueprint but surrender all that I want and trust in God’s perfect blueprint of life.

For a type A personality who likes her way, this is hard to come by. With age, I am learning to let go more. I don’t need to have everything figured out. God gives me enough to live and function. 

For example as a high school graduate, my “perfect life” blueprint that God was to adhere to consisted to be married with children and a career by 30.  Well at 28, I am close to my career (awaiting bar results), no husband, and no children. But you know what? God knew what He was doing because I like to handle one life thing at a time. God knew I wanted to be a lawyer. He has led me down that path and the future…I have learned to let God lead.

Now that does not mean that I have taken a complete “hakuna matata” to my life. But I try to be an active participant in what God places in front of me.

A straight path is not a perfect path, but God’s purpose which is perfect and better.

To be honest, I am in an uncertain phase of life post-grad life, unemployed, and living with my parents. Yeah…really trusting the Lord for the next steps.

I want to be in Florida but don’t know where. I want to practice immigration law but don’t know how and if I will. I want a dog but don’t know if that is possible. I want to make an income but don’t know the job that will do that. A lot of wants but no blueprint. Just ideas…

The path seems very dark with little light shown but I take a deep breath and trust that God will work it out.

For now, I am looking forward to family time. Applying for work. Waiting for results. And trust and not lean on my own understanding.



Eve, The First Lady

Eve, The First Lady

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”-Genesis 2:18

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”-Genesis 2:23-24

Women, we are needed in this world. No matter what marital status you are, you are needed. God made women capable to help, to assist, to work alongside the people we love in our life. We are a part of the fabric of life.

In the Easton’s Bible Commentary, the commentator Matthew Henry says: “This companion was taken from his side to signify that she was to be dear unto him as his own flesh. Not from his head, lest she should rule over him; nor from his feet, lest he should tyrannize over her; but from his side, to denote that species of equality which is to subsist in the marriage state.” 

An important thing to know is that God rules over our lives.He is the one who defines and purposes us in this world. We are not second-class citizens to be looked down upon. But, we can’t think we can do everything as God can. There are some roles and positions that God designed a man to do. There are some roles that God designed a woman to do. There are roles where God is designed to plan and execute exclusively.

I know what you are thinking..”Bianca, that’s sexist and patriarchal. Didn’t you say a woman can be anything she wants to be!?!

Yes, a woman can be anything. My point is: As a helper to the people in our lives, God will not call us to be the boss, judge, and jury over humanity, but a helper toward the greater goal or purpose.

Before Eve came along, Adam was alone. He was in Paradise naming animals, living life, and enjoying God. But God knew that he needed someone to navigate life with, someone like him who would be vital to his well-being. I bet you that Adam was going to name an animal something crazy and maybe Eve said, “Honey, what about this name?” Maybe Eve was the reasoning behind rhinoceros (You never know).  I bet you Eve brought a different perspective but was not domineering or micro-managing. She probably knew when to voice her opinion and when to step back.

For me, I like to preach a lot (as you can tell). I like to be the “Female Savior,” “The Fixer,” “The Bossy One.” Growing up, I was the bossy child (oldest of three). The kid in class who wanted to be the “Mom” in playtime because I knew I could boss everyone around. I would give people my advice and help myself into people’s situations. As a result, my “help” would be taken the wrong way and people would be offended and hurt. I had to learn to take a step back. God will give me the ability to help and the words to say, but not every circumstance calls for my full “help.” Sometimes God calls me to listen to a friend, to encourage a friend with scripture or an inspirational quote, to hug and hold the person, to just pray with and for them. Sometimes I am called to help by being silent. Yes, God calls us to be silent sometimes.

In spite of Eve’s faults, she helped in the best way she could according to her Savior. To help means listening to God’s instruction to effectively act and work alongside our families, our employees, our friends, and strangers we encounter. Let us follow that example instead what we feel is best.




New You, Same God

New You, Same God

He Makes A New Way

Jesus came to clean the mess we make. It seems impossible for a Great God to love someone as flawed and damaged as you and me. But the God who breathed life into humanity is the same God who will make a way for you and me. He is the ultimate  loophole for your sin and eternity.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.-Isaiah 43:19

I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.  And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws.-Ezekiel 36:25-27

Renewing Heart & Mind through Christ

Ok, God makes the way. Now with your attitude. God creates a new spirit and new life in us. When you accept Christ in your heart and spirit, He cleanses us. There were many people Jesus encountered that when man shamed, Jesus redeemed. Yes, there are people who will remind you who you use to be. You no longer live there. You are not your past. You are present and redeemed.

Create in me a pure heart, O God,  and renew a steadfast spirit within me.-Psalm 51:10

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ,the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!-2 Corinthians 5:17

You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires;  to be made new in the attitude of your minds;  and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.-Ephesians 4:22-24

Daily Renewing

So we are feelin our new being in Christ but then you have to wake up and deal with traffic, work, kids, life. I know because I have been on a Sunday highs then Monday lows hit. Jesus is the same today, tomorrow, and forever. He will give you the strength and endurance to make it. He renews you and me daily if we put Him first in our day.

Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.”-Lamentations 3:22-24




Yes And Amen

Yes And Amen

“All your promises are Yes and Amen.”

A lyric that is easy to sing but the lesson can be hard to act on.

It is a wonderful feeling when God says YES! He opens the door, provides the opportunity, and the means and ways to it. It is like Oprah saying YES!

Now the Amen part. Sometimes you have your plans/blueprint and God says: “Not now. Not yet. Wait.” Amen means God has sealed it and it is done. In my own life, I have said Amen after wrestling with my pride. The “burning bush of reason” says “Bianca, it’s time to stop fighting, say Amen, and move on.” I have to pray for the peace that surpasses understanding and to let it go.

You are NOT meant for the cozy, comfortable blueprint designed by you. God wants more from you and me and that calls for uncomfortable denial of self.

So if you find yourself in this dilemma, you’re alone. God is faithful. He is a God of mercy when our pride gets in the way. We have to let go of our plans. God knows what is best. One of my favorite proverbs is In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”-Proverbs 16;9.

God has the best plan. So find the strength to surrender your way to His Way. Say Yes and Amen.




A Communal Purpose

A Communal Purpose

Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”-Luke 2:13-14

Whether it was the wise men, the shepherds, the animals, the angels, there was a communal purpose: Jesus. People came from all walks and all status to see the baby. Jesus, the baby, would transcend race, gender, religion, socioeconomic status, tribe, tongue, and eternity itself. I know it is easy to lose sight of true meaning of Christmas with activities, shopping, and the like. But remember the purpose is Jesus. Enjoy Jesus with the ones you love.




Life According to God’s Compass

Life According to God’s Compass

Hi Friends,

Life Update:  Finals are over. I graduated from law school. Adjusting to post-grad life and prepping for the Bar.   

Direction is key. In life, I believe everyone has a compass. Different forces affect your direction. Personally, my own direction is flawed but God’s direction has always prevailed and succeeded in my compass.  These verses have been my “compass” reference when I get lost.

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.-Proverbs 16:9

Yes, it’s ok to plan but God provides the means and the ways from point A to point B. The blueprint is God’s to write, not a genie to do as we say.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.-Proverbs 3:5-6

Easier said than done. Trusting God means letting go of yourself. It is free-falling but God is still there holding you up. God may do something you are not expecting or is from left field. In spite of the uncomfortable change,  acknowledge Him. Know that He is working on your behalf.

Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.-John 15:4

Remain in God’s direction for your compass. God gives and blesses us with courage, patience, peace, and everything in between. You cannot generate those qualities yourself. God gives you the tools for your path if you listen and obey. Allow God to guide you and Remain in Him.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.-Romans 12:2

It is easy to get distracted with other people, what society says, and all kinds of unwanted  noise. Remind yourself of God’s truth. Choose the daily surrender of self for God’s direction for your compass.

I know. I know. Easier said than done. I struggle with this all the time. I am preaching to myself as well.  We are not perfect. We are all works in progress. God is still working on your behalf and mine. So, let Him guide your compass in life.