For most of my life, I have been a BIG people pleaser. I just always wanted to make people happy at the expense of my energy and time. I would find myself drained and empty because I wanted people to love me. Bianca can do anything.
I thought for most of my life if I said yes to people, events, and opportunities, then I would be blessed ten-fold by others.
I realized in my late 20’s that there were “friends” and “people” who I would climb mountains for when they would not go a step for me. I performed for people who could care less about me. I would give 110% when they gave -100%.
I would feel so bad inside. I would be burnt out. I would feel terrible. I would outpour everything without any inflow.
Well. Not. Anymore.
I say no or no thank you. And it feels good. Sometimes I need to take a step back. Sometimes I need to think and clear my mind. Sometimes I need to worry about myself. I need to be selfish.
Yes, it hurts but self-care is good care.
I’m not saying to say NO to everything. I’m not saying you expect everyone to give you what you give them. I’m saying be empowered by the time and moments where you have peace, silence, and self-care for yourself.
I had to realize that I matter. There will be opportunities to grasp, events to attend, and ways to serve others.
I know what you are thinking…but Bianca, that was my only chance.
NOPE, I don’t accept it.
You can be selfish to keep your sanity. But Bianca, what should I do? I’m glad you asked.
have a day to yourself,
get a mani/pedi,
read a book,
turn off your phone, social media and email,
turn off the tv,
take a nap,
Be empowered in caring for your A1 since day 1, YOU!