There are times where change can result from thorny situations. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it scars. A scar does not have to a stain of shame but a source of strength. Don’t let the thorns let you bleed out and forget that something better is coming. The joyful moments do not come without thorns and difficulty.
The people you start with may not be the people you end with. Some people are meant to be in a season for a reason. It happens. Personally, a new season meant letting go of the people and things that do not fit or pose a threat to my personal change. It is hard but it is needed. Educate yourself of what you need to change. Your future self will thank you. What are the things you need to remove in your new season?
Thrive each day of your life. Be a better version of you. It does not need to be grand. Make an intentional, daily decision to not stay the same. Transform! Be magnetic and attract the good and repel the bad. Yesterday is the past. Today is the present. What are you waiting for?
Don’t just wake and exist.
Actively inhabit your season of life.
Declare your goals.
Walk daily with the intent to achieve.
Know that it’s up to God and You.
My last semester of law school is HERE!! Here are my reflections of law school.
- Law school is a new environment not matter where you go so ADAPT to your surroundings.
- Not everyone who smiles at you is your buddy. It may sound crazy or mean but here me out. Some are after sabotage and manipulation to get the better grade. There are quality people and mentors you will encounter who will bring out the best parts in you. I have met the best people who had my best interests at heart and who rooted for me (You know who you are). It is a small handful of people but it’s enough for me. Guard yourself.
- Do what works for you. Everyone is different. What works for you is FOR YOU!
- Tears are the steps to your growth. I have cried on a few occasions but I dusted myself off and kept going. My visceral fear and failure could not be permanent or I would come to my own ruin. The resilience makes you stronger so keep going.
- Breathe. It will all be worth it. The blood, sweat, tears, and lack of sleep will pay off when I walk across that stage to receive my diploma and when I get sworn in as a licensed attorney.
After 23 years of school, I am in my final semester of law school. My last first day of school EVER! Almost the end of an era and I am terrified. I am heading into classes, then Bar prep, taking the Bar (in February), finding employment, and living life as a 27. I am scared but ready for this life-changing season. I am really doing something brave. So if you are scared, be brave. It’s ok to have fear but don’t let it overtake you. Don’t sit in your fear. Take a leap of faith. Lurch into your success no matter the tribulations. Be brave; you will thank yourself in the future..
After high school comes college. College was another life changing phase. My grainy journey consisted the following: changed my major a few times, took time off, yet had great memories, and graduated. I would not change my journey for anything.
- Your foundation of faith is vital as you navigate freedom you have never experienced. I did not have my parents telling me to go to church, read my Bible, and be set apart. I had the choice to give up on Jesus but my dad always told me “You can never go wrong with serving God.” Something told me not to let Him go. Thankfully, I was involved in Christian groups and was involved in a local church. My campus pastor, Ken Jones & his wife, Janet Jones, played a great role in my spiritual growth.
- School> Boys. Sorry, not sorry. I went to school for degree. Granted I did want a boyfriend but marriage was waaayyyy down the road. I knew that I wanted a career and to be someone.
- If you don’t find your spouse by graduation, it is not the end of the world. I remember the constant pressure of people telling me I met my spouse at this event, this spot, this campus, etc. I got annoyed because it was not happening to me. I was not going to graduate with a spouse. But then I realized that I was graduating with a degree..that is so much better than finding a spouse.
- Know what you want and don’t apologize to those who don’t apply themselves. There will be the lazy ones who will want to discourage you and bring you down to their level but stand your ground.
- Love what you do.
- Ask help before its too late. It’s ok to be a beginner. Asking for help does not mean that you are weak. It just means you are willing to be better.
- Enjoy college. It was so much fun and I would not trade my experience.