The Silver Lining to the Current Presidency

The Silver Lining to the Current Presidency

I know what you may be thinking: And what may that be, Bianca?

The silver lining is I see who people really are.

I feel like prior to this era, people’s prejudice would show it’s ugly head every now and then. I had faith in people. I thought the best in people especially Christians.

But once the current president ran, I started to see where people stood and people’s tolerances. I really started to see who people really were.

Maya Angelou says “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Usually people’s first reactions is really how they feel.

When the current president would say or do something unbecoming, the people that I thought would be outraged would make excuses or be silent.

What? I thought you were better than that.

Then, I would see how people really thought through their social media. The racist propaganda against Obama and promotion of the current president’s rhetoric. The mean-hearted comments. The videos displaying hate. The articles of angry rhetoric and division. The “us” against “them” attitude.

I’m not saying everyone should think the same. We can have disagreements but it should not turn into name-calling and empty, divisive rhetoric. 

Now, I am guarded when I encounter people. I watch people’s actions much more than the words they say.

What you talk and how you walk matters to me.

A backtrack from what you say originally speaks louder to me.

Yes, no one is perfect. But sometimes the evidence can be overwhelming.

I love and befriend from a distance. I try to take the high road towards ignorance. I post God’s Word because it cannot be disputed. I try to live as an ambassador for Christ in a lost and dying world.

I will not be perfect but I try to be who I say I am.  To live what I preach.

Blissfully,

Bianca

When #blackgirlmagic gets backtracked

When #blackgirlmagic gets backtracked

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A picture is worth a thousand words. And this picture hits home all too well.

I did not watch the match but I saw the exchange of a professional female athlete and official in a video.

Then seeing this…another unfair and racist depiction of an African American female.

To be a passionate, confident black woman is hard.

We have been portrayed as ratchet, mean, hood, angry, out of line, or savage when we show the slightest bit of assertiveness in a situation of conflict.

No, I’m not going to be violent but I want to be heard.

Personally, I have had to hold my tongue too many times out of fear that I would come off as “the angry, black woman” that makes everyone uncomfortable. That’s just my experience.

Being upset or angry is a natural human emotion…but only for some.

You can only keep your cool for so long. You can only hold your emotions for so long.

Anger does not mean violence. Being assertive should not mean that you are a b@#^&. Being black and a woman does not mean I am not allowed to feel.

As an African American, we have had to endure in silence for too long.

So what if we are passionate. If a white person can be angry, passionate, and upset, why can’t black people? We have emotions too.

But the stigma has to stop.

This cartoon is offensive. Serena is a passionate, talented, assertive #blackgirlmagic who was assertive but not a baby with a tantrum. She still displayed sportsmanship to Osaka and kept it moving. But, the system needs to change. She was just bringing light to injustices in the sports world.

We, as African American women, want to be heard and we will tell it like it is. Like it or not, we are strong and resilient. We are tough but soft. We are smart and driven. We are about that hustle. So no need to call us angry or hood. We are about taking ownership of our lives and our stories. 

We are more than the angry black woman. We are so much more.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Mental Health As A Christian

Mental Health As A Christian

Mental health is real and it does not discriminate.

My Own Struggles

In my own life, I have dealt with depression and anxiety. Before, I always thought that Christians are supposed to be happy. God is in our life so everything is fine. Even when things get bad, Christians don’t fall into that pit of despair. Mental health is for crazy, unkept, people who are in strait jackets in mental institutions.

In my prior thinking, this was my thought process as a teen and young adult even though  I was depressed and did not want to admit it.

Depression is not the same XYZ formula. It comes in different ways in different forms.

I lived putting up a happy, Christian, church-face mask to the world. I was happy on the outside but depressed and crumbling on the inside. I buried my burdens and insecurities deep within and dug myself into a pit of despair. I felt worthless and alone. Even though I could dig my way out, I would go back to digging deeper and deeper in despair.

As a teen, after church, I would try to sleep the day away. Not much of an appetite. I lost weight. I would pretend everything was ok.  But I would not admit that I was depressed.

There were boiling points in my life where my depression was seen and I had to face myself. Whether I was confronted by my family, friends, or mentors, my struggles were revealed and I could not hide it. I was found out.

The “Remedy”

Pray it away…just pray about it and you will be fine.

Well I would do that but then I would still feel depressed. I was still in my pit. I was still hiding from people. I would fake it till I made it. Just pretend everything was fine…(but I wasn’t).

Like I said, I did not want to seem “crazy” cause Christians weren’t supposed to be that way. Wrong thought process…

How I Do Function

Yes, I still pray but I pray differently. I pray for relief and comfort, some reassurance from God. I still read the Bible for counsel, relief, and comfort. I still seek Godly counsel and fellowship with other believers.

I had to learn to talk about my problems. Talking it out helps. Easier said than done but still it helps. I have received counsel from my pastor. During law school, I did see a counselor to talk out my stresses and insecurities. I would try to talk it out with my family (not easy but I get brave enough to talk to them).

List positive affirmations to myself. When I post scripture or encouragements on social media or when I blog, it’s therapy for me. I remind myself:  Bianca, you are not perfect and you don’t need to be. You are not a disappointment. There are good things in your life. Count the blessings you have. I know they exist in your life. Don’t forget that.

Sometimes I have had to remove myself from situations or people because that can cause stress. In my sophomore year of college, I had a major meltdown because I was overly stressed, depressed, and just failing. As a result, I took a semester off, went to a junior college, and lived at home until my junior year. I had to take a step back and clear my mind. I was not in a healthy place spiritually, emotionally, or academically.

Some sort of medical help may be necessary. I had a chemical imbalance so I needed to take something to balance me. Nothing to be ashamed of. I function like a human.

An outlet can be therapy. I started painting to help me. It is a wonderful escape to be active and make something beautiful in the process.

I am in no way saying this is easy. I do not have it figured out. I have to fight to love myself and value myself enough to face each day. I know I have tools and resources to keep going but sometimes I am not fine.

It’s ok to seek help. It’s ok to feel bad. But try to find an outlet. You are not alone in this world. Know that it’s ok to seek help…even Christians too.

I believe Jesus knows that we hurt and He hurts for us. I believe Jesus has gifted individuals with the ability to counsel and encourage in life situations. Jesus is the ultimate Counselor but He calls people to be His hands and feet. God created medicine for a reason and some people need it. God made resources for a reason.

Biblical Outlet

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.-1 Corinthians 10:13

There is a way to endure with Jesus. There have been dark moments where all I had was myself and I could have hurt myself, but there was a still small voice telling me to hold on. When I could not sleep, I felt someone wrap their arms around me. When in my despair,  I felt angels surrounding me. Something was in the room but I did not know what. Nothing scary but I know it’s God.

Sometimes I function and survive because I am holding on the hem of Jesus’s garment. Even if it is a thread, I know I can never go wrong with turning to Jesus.

My Go-To Psalm is Psalm 121:

I lift up my eyes to the hills.
From where does my help come?
My help comes from the Lord,
who made heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot be moved;
he who keeps you will not slumber.
Behold, he who keeps Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.

The Lord is your keeper;
the Lord is your shade on your right hand.
The sun shall not strike you by day,
nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all evil;
he will keep your life.
The Lord will keep
your going out and your coming in
from this time forth and forevermore.

Hold on to Jesus. He won’t let you go. Even in the darkness moments, He is there. You may not feel like He is but He is. Even if you don’t love Jesus or believe in Jesus, He is still watching over you. He still wants you.

To Close

There is no perfect solution. There is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all human. As Christians, we are still human. We all fall short. God is the Ultimate Counselor and Sustainer. And God created ways to be at peace.  I still struggle my insecurities but fight each day the best I can. It’s ok to not be ok. Remember this:

You are not alone.

Hold on.

You will make it.

I believe and have faith in you. 

Blissfully,

Bianca

As A Woman In the Local Church

As A Woman In the Local Church

I did not see in the Bible that women are second class citizens in the body of Christ.

So then, why it is such a power trip?

I have been in churches where women serve as sisters with their brothers in Christ. I have been in churches where the “rules” are archaic. It’s like a woman serving outside her duties (i.e. women’s ministry and children) is destroying the headship of man (ugh…give me a break).

I don’t think it is. Women are more than teaching children and women, having tea together, sitting pretty and silent while the “man” does God’s work. We have other skills. We may not be gifted in everything but we are gifted in some things.

Biblical Women of Service 

Not just the Proverbs 31 woman…There are women in the early church who were in involved. Here are some:

Phoebe: I commend to you our sister Phoebe, who is a deacon in the church in Cenchrea. Welcome her in the Lord as one who is worthy of honor among God’s people. Help her in whatever she needs, for she has been helpful to many, and especially to me.-Romans 16:1-2

Priscilla and Aquila: Give my greetings to Priscilla and Aquila, my co-workers in the ministry of Christ Jesus.  In fact, they once risked their lives for me. I am thankful to them, and so are all the Gentile churches.-Romans 16:3-4

Meanwhile, a Jew named Apollos, an eloquent speaker who knew the Scriptures well, had arrived in Ephesus from Alexandria in Egypt.  He had been taught the way of the Lord, and he taught others about Jesus with an enthusiastic spirit and with accuracy. However, he knew only about John’s baptism. When Priscilla and Aquila heard him preaching boldly in the synagogue, they took him aside and explained the way of God even more accurately.-Acts 18:24-26

Mary (not mother of Jesus): Give my greetings to Mary, who has worked so hard for your benefit. -Romans 16:7

Junia: Greet Andronicus (husband)  and Junia (wife), my fellow Jews, who were in prison with me. They are highly respected among the apostles and became followers of Christ before I did.-Romans 16:8

Active. Teaching People. Preaching. Prisoners. Hard Workers. Risk-takers for the Gospel.

No delicacy there. These women were sisters for the kingdom respected by their brothers serving alongside them.

Spiritual Gifts And Roles

I know what you are thinking: 1 Timothy 2:8-12

Therefore I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing.  I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.

I used to hate this verse because some Christian men would twist this verse to say women should not preach but be quiet and submit. A woman who does not follow through is not of God. I have to remember that God’s Words are not to hinder and belittle but are for a greater purpose. But look at the verse again through The Message version Bible:

Since prayer is at the bottom of all this, what I want mostly is for men to pray—not shaking angry fists at enemies but raising holy hands to God. And I want women to get in there with the men in humility before God, not primping before a mirror or chasing the latest fashions but doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it. I don’t let women take over and tell the men what to do. They should study to be quiet and obedient along with everyone else.

Work and pray with humility. Doing something beautiful for God and being beautiful doing it. Not to overstep for power but be obedient to God’s word. God may call us to have a quiet spirit, to be wise, and to discern. But God may call us to something greater. It all depends on Him. We don’t always need to talk but don’t always need to be silent if God gives us a Word to share.

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord.  There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit, to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues, and to still another the interpretation of tongues.  All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines.-2 Corinthians 12:4-11

Different strokes for different folks. God made each of us with distinct gifts. Not every man is not meant to be a preacher. Not every woman is meant to do women’s ministry and teach children.  I am not discounting women who are called to women’s ministry and children’s ministry. You all do great work for the Kingdom but not every woman is gifted in that. Respect our talents no matter what our gifts are. There is no male role or female role. God gives each gift from the same source and for the same reason. There are some people in the Church who are not called to certain gifts. Nothing is man-designed but God-ordained.

Christian Men…Not All but Some 

A vivid memory I had was in a Sunday school class where the male teacher said “Feminism is a sin. A sin of the world to disrespect men and their authority”

Ummm…excuse me. I bravely took him on. And yup..I got weird looks from our group. 

I was raised to respect and be respected. My dad is one of the rare ones. He wanted his  daughters to be strong women of God who were smart, well-spoken, educated, and respectful to authority. I never heard my dad say “Women can’t do that. You are better silent. That’s what men do.” My dad was comfortable as a Man of God to value his skills and  the skills of his wife  to serve in her God-given capacities. The same goes for his son and daughters.

My dad encourages me with these words: “You are a human being and a helper but you are not to be abused and mistreated.”

On the opposite end, I have encountered “Christian men” who are sexists, who believe women should be silent and do as they are told, who feel disrespected when a woman stands up to them, and who twist the Bible to demean and degrade women. There were moments in my life where I did not want to marry Christian men. I did not want to be disrespected a marriage. I even wanted to give up on Church because I did not fit into the archaic sexism.

But I reminded of Galatians 2:28: There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. There is no superior gender but a Superior Savior we all follow. My brother in Christ should respect me as his sister in Christ. Working to be lights in the world and winning others for Christ. There is an equality in the body of Christ even though we are different.

So that is what I do. I respect my brother but I deserve respect too.

For Example

My mom, not a women’s ministry-nursery lady, but God has given her the gift of medical knowledge and care to many. Not to be biased (but I am), my mom is a dynamite woman. She is strong, kind, and warm. She is well-spoken and bold. She is also wise and meek.  She is a light to all she meets. She is respectful. No sticking it to man but she demands respect.

To Close

I can’t fix every Christian man to respect me the way God sees me. There will be men who are archaic, insecure dinosaurs who treat women as second class citizens. And there is some who are my brothers who I work alongside for the Kingdom. It can’t be helped (all are sinners).

But here is some encouragement for both parties:

To my Christian sisters, know who you are and whose you are. You are fearfully and wonderfully made for a purpose. You are not second but first. God has gifted you with talents and abilities for His glory. We don’t all need to be the same. God will call us to be meek or speak but we are not lesser than.

To my Christian brothers, respect us. We are all striving for the same goal: To bring glory and honor to God. Sharpen us, encourage us, challenge us but don’t look down on us. We are His workmanship too.

So that’s all I got.

Blissfully,

Bianca

 

 

As A Single in the Local Church

As A Single in the Local Church

So I have been single for 28 years of my life.

From 0-18, I was a kid…no need for boyfriends. I was not allowed to date till I was 18.

From 18-25, I was single. I was in the Young College group. Safe security. There were single people, dating couples, even engaged couples. 

Then came 25-28, I am too old to be in the Young College group but too young for the Adult Singles….hmm…

I have been in local churches where there was a singles population and where I was single, professional party of one. 

There have been times where I felt invisible. I was not in a relationship. I was not married. I was not married with children. It’s like I was not exciting enough. It’s like the best questions I was asked was: “So what do you do these days?” 

Or when your friends talk about the kids carpooling, baby stories, wedding plans, “marriage moments,” breastfeeding tips, homeschooling ideas, and you’re like “I finished organizing my DVD collection.” and they say “Oh, that’s nice” and get back to their life talks….like that’s not exciting!!!

What’s up with that? I am exciting. I do stuff. I am not at home knitting in my tower waiting for my prince to come. 

Sometimes I feel like there is a disconnect with the Church and single people. We are just as valuable as the married people, the elderly people, the divorced people, the widowers, the college people, the children. Sometimes it feels like the Church wants me “to get married already” so I can be exciting.

Sometimes I feel “left out” or “alienated” for being single. There aren’t any singles programs at church, a thriving singles ministry, or even singles at the Church that I can relate to. I just have to be alone and accept that I may get the short-end.

There is not a solution to my frustration. Sometimes it’s just the way things are. Situations are what they are.

For any single Christian,it’s all about opportunity. Pray for the opportunities to feel included in the body of Christ. To be active. To be involved. To meet authentic people who pour into your life.

Inadequacy of relationship status is the Enemy’s way of telling lies that “you’re not good enough ,” “you’re alone because you are the problem,” “you can’t be a part of a church; you’re not married with kids,”These people won’t like you, you’re not married.” These are lies that I combat in my own life. Like I have to change churches because I may be the only person like me. Don’t think that. Ask for the Holy Spirit to guide you and give you confidence.

Yes, I do fellowship with all kinds of people. I am an extrovert at heart so I will talk to anyone with a pulse. God has shown me avenues to be involved with other Christian singles and other types of people. One of them being Bible Study Fellowship (BSF) where there are classes for men, women, and children from all walks of life in different stages of life. God has sent wonderful friends from all relationship statuses who love me and accept me as their single friend. God has opened doors where I can serve and be a part of the body of Christ.

So, pray for those avenues and people who can encourage and uplift you. God hears the single person too. We are assets to the body. Yes, it may feel uncomfortable but God likes that. Don’t complain when God opens those doors differently than you thought.  God answers prayers in the way He sees fit.  It’ll work out.

Single Christian, you will be alright. Hang on and stay strong.

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Lenses on the Immigrant

My Lenses on the Immigrant

This is not about policy, nationalism, or border control. This is not about deportation or ICE. This is not about what administrations have done. This is not about who deserves to be here and who does not. This is not about criminals, amnesty, overpopulation, merit-based vs. open immigration. 

This is about human decency. This is about loving your neighbor as yourself. 

This issue is very close to my heart because I am the daughter of Haitian immigrants. I am a first generation American. Even though my citizenship is never questioned, I don’t think for one minute that this issue does not apply to me.

I am not the person I am without the sacrifice of my parents. Like many immigrants, they worked hard even in the face of discrimination and doubt. They provided for their families. They mastered a language that is not their own. They came to America for a better life for their descendants. And I am a result of them. 

If you did not know, the Bible is filled with immigration that stemmed from a great migration, displacement, wars, etc.  Even Jesus Christ was an immigrant, born in a foreign land and fleeing death in his first years of life.

We are all strangers that were once lost but found with Christ. 

No race is better than another.

We must treat strangers as we would like to be treated. Yes, even the bad ones (love your enemies..it’s in the Bible).

If you think this is hearsay, the Bible explicitly says how to treat a stranger/immigrant in your land:

“When a stranger sojourns with you in your land, you shall not do him wrong. You shall treat the stranger who sojourns with you as the native among you, and you shall love him as yourself, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the Lord your God.”-Leviticus 19:33-34

“‘Cursed be anyone who perverts the justice due to the sojourner, the fatherless, and the widow.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’- Deutoromony 27:19

He executes justice for the fatherless and the widow, and loves the sojourner, giving him food and clothing.-Deutoronomy 10:18

Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.-Hebrews 13:2

Separating families, discriminating against them, telling them to “go back to your country,” the physical and emotional abuses during detainment. demeaning, racists behavior towards them is NOT of God. Anyone who condones that behavior is on the side of evil.

Remember did God treat you in a discriminatory way when you first came to Him? You aren’t all that to be honest…you are actually dirty, filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6) before Christ came. Just saying…

God calls us to love immigrants where they are. To clothe, feed, shelter, and care for widowers and children. God shows us how to be His hands and feet to these communities. It varies on how that looks in your personal journey. I’m not saying you need to give immigrants everything you have but have humility. How would you want to be treated in a foreign land?

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.-Galatians 3:28

But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ,-Philippians 3:20

In the grand scheme of the Gospel, your citizenship to heaven does not depend on your national origin or ancestry. God loves diversity. Every tribe and every tongue will be with Jesus someday….even the immigrants will be there. It depends on your heart and how you treat God’s people. That’s all.

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Lenses On the LGBTQ Community

My Lenses On the LGBTQ Community

I am writing as a Bible-believing Christ follower. This is my honest opinion towards the subject. I hope you read this in its entirety.  I will not please the world with what I say but it’s my truth in the matter.

All the names are fake names. Only I know the real person’s name in each description.

Early Memories

Jack– I was a 7th grader and he was an 8th grader. He was the sweetest, kindest guy in my middle school chorus program. All the girls loved him. I secretly wanted him to be my boyfriend. I even told my friend that I want him to be my boyfriend. She told me how I was not his type.

I asked, “What do you mean?” She said how “Jack likes boys.” “What? Boys can like boys?” I responded. My friend responded, “Yes, they can.”  That was my first experience with the gay person.

Alice– She was a high school freshman like me. She was a punk, emo girl who barely came to class. If she did, she looked high or strung out. She had a girlfriend one moment, then within a few weeks she was with a boy.

My thought process was “so you can like both? How can you love both?” I then learned what a bisexual was.

Spiritual Background

I grew up in a Christian home. I did not know these terms or types of people until middle school and beyond. I believed in Jesus. In church, I was taught that God created love and marriage between a man and a woman. In my faith, I was taught to hate sin. So in my legalistic mind, I thought I was to hate the bad sinners. I thought I had to stay away from before they affect me too.

But in the other part of my mind, the gay people I encountered were so nice. I was conflicted as a young Christian. Yes, I was to hate sin but how do I love these people. I grappled with this dilemma for a long time.

The Crossroads Moment

It wasn’t until my junior year of college when I met my roommate, Tanya, My side of the room had scripture on the wall and when she came to the room, I guess she realized she needed to tell me she was a lesbian. When she told me, she told me “listen, I see you are a Christian and I am gay so I will understand if you don’t want to my roommate.”

Wow, that hurt.

It’s like she already knew the “Christian script:”  You’re going to hell if you don’t change.

It struck me…I’m not like that. I would not bluntly tell someone that. How would someone accept Christ if a Christian said that?

Could I have changed roommates? Yes.

Did I? No.

She really did challenge me. She was a cool person. We had meaningful conversation about our faiths, her story, and my story.

She did grow up as a Christian but she thought she was gay. There is still family that she has not told. There was a deep traumatic event that altered her perception of men.  I shared Jesus with her. She took it at face value. And we lived together for a semester.

Going Forward

After my junior year, my perception started to change. Life brought more and more people from all spectrum. I took time to listen to them, not every story is the same. People from my past started coming out…some were a shock, some were not.

I stopped thinking I should not disassociate and rebuke them. Most people already knew “what Christians would say.”

But I started realizing that I am a sinner just like them and yet Jesus died for all our sins. We all have temptations and sins that are hard to overcome. It is a personal choice on whether to give in to those temptations. 

In my second year of law school, the church I was attending had a guest speaker, Sy Rogers, a preacher who left the LGBTQ community who gave his life to Christ. He even said that even now, he struggles with that sin but still holds on to Christ. He has a wife and children. While God renewed him, he expressed how celibacy while wrestling with same sex attraction is also a victory. I know not know the struggle personally but I do understand people who are trying to follow Christ and his teachings. By no means, do I discount the struggle but I know God will help facilitate and give a person a way out.

God can heal and restore a person’s heart to love the way God intended it to be. But it is an individual choice. A Christian cannot make that choice for them. Only God can change an individual’s heart.

My Convictions

This is not an easy solution. I am still working this part out with every person I meet.

To me, I believe the Bible in its entirety: Old Testament and New Testament. God’s Word does not change with time, it stands with time. Homosexuality is a sin. Marriage is between a man and a woman. God designed and displays marriage between a man and a woman. That will not change.

I base my belief on these verses: Romans 1:26-28, 1 Timothy 1:8-11, Mark 10:6-9, 1 Corinthians 7:2, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Leviticus 20:13

I am sinner. There are sins in my life that I fight to overcome. Sin is sin. Yes, we all sin differently and no sin is bigger than another. But sin still separates us from God. 

No, I don’t believe America is going to hell or any tragedy occurred because of gay people (all are sinners remember…).

No, the LGBTQ  do not deserve to be hate crime victims. Like I said as Christians, we are not judge, jury, or punisher. We are called to love as Christ loves where people are. The Pulse Nightclub Shooting broke my heart and my heart still hurts for the lives lost and their friends and family. I prayed that for the community to people to be comforted by the Savior and to find peace that only He can give. The suicide rate for this community hurts my heart. No one should feel less of a human being to point where they do not value their lives. I don’t wish the pain and prejudice on any one of these people. The LGBTQ community are valued in God’s eyes. He still died for them too. 

No, I don’t believe the LGBTQ community should be denied healthcare, legal representation, or any necessities. I would gladly feed, clothe, counsel, hug, and love them even if we have different views. Love your neighbor as yourself.

I will never say to someone “You are going to hell.” Last time I checked we are all destined for hell. We are all sinners. Jesus saved us all.  I am not called to be judge and jury of anyone but I am called to be a light and share the love and truth of Jesus Christ.

But I Chose Love

 Just because I have those convictions does not mean I don’t talk to my friends in the community. I have friends and people in life who are in the LGBTQ community. One of my favorite teachers. Medical professionals who have treated my sister. A law school colleagues. Many other beautiful people I encounter.  They are wonderful, kind people. I don’t disregard them or curse them for their choice. But if they ask me what I believe, I would tell them in a loving way that I am a Bible-believing Christian and I don’t believe in homosexuality but I will love them where they are in life.

I will love them they way Christ loves them. I have my convictions and beliefs but I love them. God calls us to love our neighbor as ourselves. God created them too. God died for them too. I will not hate them for the choices they have made. I will love them where they are and let God will do the rest.

Next Steps

Like I said, there is not an easy solution but I am willing to learn and grow more. So I have challenged myself with reading more about Christianity and Homosexuality. A great friends of mine suggested: Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Alberry, Same-Sex Attraction and the Church by Ed Shaw, Space at the Table by Brad and Drew Harper , The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert and The Gospel Comes With a House Key-by Rosaria Butterfield. I continue to pray and seek guidance on this topic. Finally, what I want to show the LGBTQ community and everyone is the Father’s love, to love as He loved and still loves His people.

 

Blissfully,

Bianca