Posted in Believe with Bianca

Trust and Keep Going

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.-Proverbs 3:5-6

Easier said than done but this is how I am living. Trusting means surrender to self. I am learning constantly to give up what I thought my plans were. God has changed my direction. I am casting nets that come up empty: job rejections, failed test results, relocation failure.

And yet… God says keep trying, you will figure it out. I am with you.

To be honest, there are moments where He seems so far away. It just seems like I am going at it alone. Facing the world and its nonverbal/verbal opinions of my failure.

And yet…God says keep trying, you will figure it out. I am with you.

It’s like I can only see the small light in front of me in the tunnel. Or the tiny thread in the quilt. I desire brightness to light my way. I desire to see the whole tapestry. But God will only give me what I need at the moment. It is quite frustrating not knowing the grand plan.

And yet, God says trust me. I know where you are going. I am with you.

It’s very hard not knowing where I am going. What I thought would be a couple months had been two years of struggling. I am learning contentment every day where I am. I am trying to trust, breathe, and keep living.

And still God says trust me and keeping going. I am with you.



Posted in A Breath of Fresh Air

A Breath of Fresh Air: God Cares For You and the Flowers

“Consider how the wild flowers grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today, and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, how much more will he clothe you—you of little faith!- Luke 12:27-28

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If God takes care of flowers and nature, God will definitely take of you.

It takes a lot to keep the Earth intact. But in all that is in the world, God sustains to thrive. The Creator of the Universe cares for you.

Bible Commentator, David Guzik states ” If God cares for the flowers but that means that every day for the flowers is not sun and sweetness, If every day was sunny and there were never clouds and rain, the flowers would die quickly.” Think about that...sunshine is needed for growth but you can’t have too much of a good thing. Though sunshine is great, it will dry up nutrients that you do need. The sunshine (or riches) creates a sense of self-sufficiency (i.e. the opposite of dependency of Christ). You never grow and would never need a Savior. You have everything…or so you think.

Remember that growth does not occur without struggle.

Consider this as well. Guzik also states: ” To think the Lord who clothes the lilies will leave his own children naked is shameful.” When we don’t believe in God’s provision, it is a slap in the face to the Creator. Easier said than done but nature trusts its Creator and so should we. He sustains nature in its natural order. Consider the species of flowers on this planet. There are so many varieties of plants and flowers discovered and undiscovered, growing in different climates and ecosystems, and in various colors, shapes, lengths. A cactus in the Sahara thrives like an exotic flower from the Amazon Rainforest. The needs may vary but God still provides. God does it all allowing His Creation to survive the elements into a form of beauty and awe.

Same with us, no matter what life gives, God provides the shade from the heat, restoration in destructive places, nourishment when we need it, and the provision for everything in-between. God wants us to trust Him with everything.



Posted in My Lenses on Life

The Modern, Fashionable Proverbs 31 Woman

In this day in age, beauty is everywhere. Beauty blogs, beauty tutorials, beauty ads. What’s in what’s out. Beauty transformations. The smoky eye. How to blend your foundation using an egg. So many brands, so little money. Gotta look on fleek, flawless, sexy. Gotta not look like a zombie. Whether it’s for a lover or that family member who says “You would look so much better if you just put some makeup on.” So you thrive to look your best.

Clothes…let’s not get started. You gotta look put together. Sweatpants could be considered as lazy. Gotta look professional. What size am I? Does this store carry my size? Why do I need to show more skin/less skin? Why does that person look better in that than me? If I were only smaller, fuller, had bigger (fill in body part).

Let’s be real, ladies. It take so much to feel pretty and worthy according to the beauty standards. It’s a lot of pressure. Even as a upcoming attorney, I have to dress the part and look close to an “Olivia Pope” attorney. It’s just hard. Now I am not saying that all women should NOT be a hot mess. I’m just’s hard in these streets.

Thankfully, Jesus does not determine if a woman is worthy based on her looks.

Proverbs 31 states:

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. vs. 25-26

“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.-vs. 29-30

Being clothed in good character never goes out of style. God believes in beauty from the inside out. Strength and dignity is confidence you wear no matter how you look, what color you are, what size you are. Wisdom is something to gain and attain as a fashionable accessory. A good word never goes out of style. An uncompromising woman of the Lord is worthy in her own right. A woman who humbles herself before God will be “youthful” and beautiful from the inside out.

If you have a beauty routine, don’t feel bad. If you don’t have a beauty routine, don’t feel bad. This is not a bashing of one ideal. Just know you have choices in life. God’s beauty standards are different than man’s beauty standard. God created woman in His image as well.

A modern, fashionable, Proverbs 31 is beautiful based on her God-given character that radiates from the inside out.




Posted in A Breath of Fresh Air

Eve, The First Lady

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”-Genesis 2:18

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”-Genesis 2:23-24

Women, we are needed in this world. No matter what marital status you are, you are needed. God made women capable to help, to assist, to work alongside the people we love in our life. We are a part of the fabric of life.

In the Easton’s Bible Commentary, the commentator Matthew Henry says: “This companion was taken from his side to signify that she was to be dear unto him as his own flesh. Not from his head, lest she should rule over him; nor from his feet, lest he should tyrannize over her; but from his side, to denote that species of equality which is to subsist in the marriage state.” 

An important thing to know is that God rules over our lives.He is the one who defines and purposes us in this world. We are not second-class citizens to be looked down upon. But, we can’t think we can do everything as God can. There are some roles and positions that God designed a man to do. There are some roles that God designed a woman to do. There are roles where God is designed to plan and execute exclusively.

I know what you are thinking..”Bianca, that’s sexist and patriarchal. Didn’t you say a woman can be anything she wants to be!?!

Yes, a woman can be anything. My point is: As a helper to the people in our lives, God will not call us to be the boss, judge, and jury over humanity, but a helper toward the greater goal or purpose.

Before Eve came along, Adam was alone. He was in Paradise naming animals, living life, and enjoying God. But God knew that he needed someone to navigate life with, someone like him who would be vital to his well-being. I bet you that Adam was going to name an animal something crazy and maybe Eve said, “Honey, what about this name?” Maybe Eve was the reasoning behind rhinoceros (You never know).  I bet you Eve brought a different perspective but was not domineering or micro-managing. She probably knew when to voice her opinion and when to step back.

For me, I like to preach a lot (as you can tell). I like to be the “Female Savior,” “The Fixer,” “The Bossy One.” Growing up, I was the bossy child (oldest of three). The kid in class who wanted to be the “Mom” in playtime because I knew I could boss everyone around. I would give people my advice and help myself into people’s situations. As a result, my “help” would be taken the wrong way and people would be offended and hurt. I had to learn to take a step back. God will give me the ability to help and the words to say, but not every circumstance calls for my full “help.” Sometimes God calls me to listen to a friend, to encourage a friend with scripture or an inspirational quote, to hug and hold the person, to just pray with and for them. Sometimes I am called to help by being silent. Yes, God calls us to be silent sometimes.

In spite of Eve’s faults, she helped in the best way she could according to her Savior. To help means listening to God’s instruction to effectively act and work alongside our families, our employees, our friends, and strangers we encounter. Let us follow that example instead what we feel is best.