The Bloom Series: The Start

The Bloom Series: The Start

Bloom: a state/time of beauty, freshness, and vigor; a state or time of high development or achievement; to shine out, to become more apparent or fully expressed or to appear or occur unexpectedly or remarkable quantity or degree

Something beautiful starts from somewhere. A rose starts as a seed that develops to a tiny plant then the rosebud.

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With time, water, sunlight, and other resources, the rosebud will develop and bloom into the rose. But without those factors, the rose would not exist.

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The same applies in people. We have all started from somewhere. We had to be patient, go through the storm, be pruned, and rise from dirt in order to transform. You and I are beautiful masterpieces and still are works in progress. The growing is not over. We are being renewed and reborn into our blissful best self each day with every season of life.

My new series for April is “The Bloom Series.” It’s SPRINGTIME. The cold, winter has gone and now seeds on the ground emerge as blooms. The struggle always brings something beautiful. So I want to give a garden of knowledge, growth, encouragement, and fun.

I start the series the week of April 7 into the end of the month on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. I will have bonus Sunday posts for Palm Sunday and Easter.

I hope you join me in my Bloom Series, Bliss Fam.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Devalue Complaining, Value Your Blessings

Devalue Complaining, Value Your Blessings

YES, Complaining is easy to do . If we could all go around the room and complain about our lives, we would be here till the world ended.

Last year, I was in a dark space.

My psyche consisted of depression and anxiety of : “My plans to a first time bar passer was destroyed. I was going to be in limbo again. I was not going to be like everyone else. I was not to be sworn in with my peers. I did not have the attorney job of my dreams. I was not the strong, independent career girl that I claimed to be. I was a post-grad living with my parents and being sister Uber for my siblings for school, work, church, etc. I had an extended season with uncertainty.”

I know my psyche is exhausting. But, I was so run down and hurt.

It’s ok to be upset and have a pity party but the importance is not staying there.

Complaining is a spinning hamster wheel. Your mind is going a mile a minute. Your mouth just keeps going about all the things going wrong. Your energy is depleting because you are exerting so much negative energy.

A Word from the Wise: STOP!!!

Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God,  the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary,  and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.-Isaiah 40:28-31

Yes, you feel weak and down. But God will not allow you to stay there UNLESS you decide to stay there. God covers a multitude of pain.

Yes, I cry. I get upset. I wallow. BUT God helps me to soar to newer heights.

Remember that God’s mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:20-21).

Try to think of blessings to combat things going wrong. Each day, no matter how hard it is, is a new opportunity for blessings. Value the blessings…for me, it is as simple as God giving me breath and the ability to wake up, my family, my talents, and my friends.

It may not be easy but try. Give energy to the blessings. Don’t dwell in what is going wrong–God may be saving you from something else.

So devalue the negativity that can easily cloud your life. Value your blessings.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Value My Welcome

Value My Welcome

Hi Bliss Fam!

I’m excited to be back! I have a lot to share with you. For March, my new series is called The Value Series.”

To start, it is important in this day in age to have value. You are judged on them. Your life is altered by the values you hold. It navigates your compass in this thing called life.

My values are biblically-based and from my life experiences. As always, I want you to read to be encouraged and challenged in your own life. As I write for you, I write for myself. This is my therapy and my escape.

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So value my welcome…what does that mean? It’s not conceited or self-boasting…I promise.

I mean welcome what life has to offer. Yes, I do mean the good, bad, and ugly moments but it is a part of your growth.

I know..easier said than done but it’s something I have had to do in my own life. I have had to deal with rejection, joys, challenges, accomplishments, and everything in between.

Seasons are not permanent. There is a lesson in every welcome. It is important to know that God is there, molding you. It is up to you to know how to move forward.

You have to have the encouragement mantra in the hard days to say: “I can make it. This season is not forever. God has something better in store. I will make it.”

This past season, I had deal with not passing the Bar exam on the first try. It was an ugly hard to time. Though I pretended to be fine, I did not welcome the lesson. I just doubted and hated myself for failing. I focused on what I could be than what I was. I was still Bianca. I had to value that the rejection and make room for unexpected opportunities and blessings in disguise.

I am not saying that valuing the tough times is easy. It takes time. We live in a fallen, imperfect world so we have welcome to bad days but stand firm.

Value the good days. You have the right to enjoy the blessings. With the failure of the bar exam, joys did occur: I had job opportunities being home. I have a closer, connected bond with my family now that I live at home. I am more involved in my church. I was growing into a better me.

So welcome yourself in the rollercoaster of life. Be strong. Be thankful for the good in your life. Enjoy. But also know you are still you. God is not done with you. Value the welcome.

Blissfully,

Bianca


A Blissful Motivation for Change

A Blissful Motivation for Change

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Whether it’s a big leap or a step in the right direction, you have a daily opportunity to live.  I love this quote because it is true. You can change your life by a single decision. If you are not six feet under and not in a hospital dying, you are doing pretty well.  One life on one planet in a moment in time. Know that you have purpose. So what change will you decide to do?

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Blissfully,

Bianca

Motivation through the Rough Times

Motivation through the Rough Times

There are times where change can result from thorny situations. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it scars.  A scar does not have to a stain of shame but a source of strength.  Don’t let the thorns let you bleed out and forget that something better is coming. The joyful moments do not come without thorns and difficulty.

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Blissfully,

Bianca

A Blissful Word from Mama B!

A Blissful Word from Mama B!

It is not enough to say “I want to change XYZ. I need to get out.”

You have to do something…like actually act. If you keep complaining, then you will be like a dog chasing its tail. As a friend, I would remember giving the same advice over and over again (run myself into the ground) to friends who knew what they had to do. I also had to realize I can want change for someone else but if they do not take the steps, it is not my fault.

Don’t blame and complain if you refuse to change. 

It’s ok to be selfish and take care of yourself.  You are the only person living YOUR LIFE. No one has to live with the consequences but YOU.

Yes, change is hard. I am speaking to myself on this too. But is being in the same position worth it? Is that person really worth it? Is that situation worth the pain and hurt you feel?

Let the change crescendo and catapult into a better version of life.

Change it or live in it. That’s the choice you have to make.

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Blissfully,

Bianca

Nostalgic Bliss

Nostalgic Bliss

After high school comes college. College was another life changing phase. My grainy journey consisted the following: changed my major a few times, took time off, yet had great memories, and graduated. I would not change my journey for anything.

  1. Your foundation of faith is vital as you navigate freedom you have never experienced. I did not have my parents telling me to go to church, read my Bible, and be set apart. I had the choice to give up on Jesus but my dad always told me “You can never go wrong with serving God.” Something told me not to let Him go. Thankfully, I was involved in Christian groups and was involved in a local church. My campus pastor, Ken Jones & his wife, Janet Jones, played a great role in my spiritual growth.
  2. School> Boys. Sorry, not sorry. I went to school for degree. Granted I did want a boyfriend but marriage was waaayyyy down the road. I knew that I wanted a career and to be someone.
  3. If you don’t find your spouse by graduation, it is  not the end of the world. I remember the constant pressure of people telling me I met my spouse at this event, this spot, this campus, etc. I got annoyed because it was not happening to me. I was not going to graduate with a spouse. But then I realized that I was graduating with a degree..that is so much better than finding a spouse.
  4. Know what you want and don’t apologize to those who don’t apply themselves. There will be the lazy ones who will want to discourage you and bring you down to their level but stand your ground.
  5. Love what you do. 
  6. Ask help before its too late. It’s ok to be a beginner. Asking for help does not mean that you are weak. It just means you are willing to be better.
  7. Enjoy college.  It was so much fun and I would not trade my experience.

Grainy

Blissfully,

Bianca

Monday Motivation

Monday Motivation

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I can relate to this.  I feel a prickle of fear and inadequacy almost every day. I can stress over all my inadequacies all day but what will that do? Know you that you are one person. You are a human being. Do the best you can. Your best is your best. If anyone has a problem, then tough…you have done with you can.

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Blissfully,

Bianca

Blissful Phrases Single People Wish Married People Would Stop Saying

Blissful Phrases Single People Wish Married People Would Stop Saying

We know our family and friends mean well but really!?! If we needed your help and guidance, we would ask. Singlehood is not a sad place if you don’t wallow waiting your soulmate. I live a wonderful fulfilling life as a single person. God’s providence has not lessened or changed because it’s just me.

I asked some of my peers the words/phrases they tire of hearing:

  • Oh, I’m sorry.
  • *Asks my age*… You should be married.
  • You know that’s usually when God brings the right buy along
  • It will happen when you least expect it
  • Why aren’t you married?
  • You’ve got plenty of time
  • That’s a shame. You’re such a lovely girl 
  • You’re not getting any younger. If you wait too long you won’t be able to have kids.
  • You’ll find the right one and just know 
  • God has His plan for you, just wait it out
  • If you don’t settle, you’ll never have kids
  • Your standards are too high.
  • A degree is nice but it can’t love you back.

Your delivery of constant criticism of my relationship status is discouraging and flat out annoying (sorry not sorry). Family and Friends, like I said we know you mean well. If we wanted someone, we would say something.  Instead of pitying and criticizing your single peeps, why not ask us about:

  • What are you up these days?
  • What are your goals?
  • What is new in your life?

Single people have lives. We are interesting too. We just want you to love and RESPECT where we are. That is all.

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Blissfully,

Bianca

Blissful Stress Relievers

Blissful Stress Relievers

Life gets very busy. It is not good for people to just work and pay taxes non-stop till you die. That would be a sad life. I have had to learn to de-stress and not let life get the best of me. Stress Relievers are tailored to help and to make life more interesting. I want to give you sobering ways to relax.

  1. Coloring Books. I know it sounds childish but they are quite the trend. I have too many coloring books. I love the ones with quotes and scripture. Just take 30 minutes or an hour to color.
  2. Paint Places. There are painting places where I live where you pay money for an instructor to teach you how to paint. My favorite place to go is Pinot’s Palette in Jacksonville, FL. They are wonderful people who are willing to help. It is BYOB. Whether it is a Friday night or a Tuesday afternoon, they offer great painting classes.
  3. A Bath. I love taking a soothing bath in silence. I love bath salts, bath fizzies, and aromatherapy soaps. I usually get them at Bath & Body Works, Marshall’s and TJmaxx.
  4.  Eat Comfort Food. Give me ice cream or just dessert that puts me in a happy place. Use discretion with the intake but it’s a thought.
  5. Sleep/Nap. Enough said. It’s a beautiful thing to lay down and unwind.
  6. Talk to someone. You can talk to someone who listens and helps you defuse the situation. I know great friends who have made my stress levels go down by their presence and advice.
  7. Listen to Music. It is great to have music that puts you in a mellow and calm state.
  8. Walk. It is good to walk around. Easier said than done but get some sun.

All in all, take care of yourself. Don’t forget to make yourself a priority. This is my blissful list. What is a way you destress?

Tailor

Blissfully,

Bianca