This unique title stems from a tradition of loving me initiative. I decided that I wanted to treat myself and show my growth with the jewelry I buy (i.e. rings). Why wait for the primetime engagement ring when I can buy my own ring? It’s not an engagement ring I buy each year (that would be weird). The rings I have bought the past three years have symbolized a season of life.
In Fall 2014, I purchased my first ring, my cross ring in honor of 2015. I got my first job out of college for a non-profit organization. It was a seasonal job, but it would help me save money for law school. And I wanted to buy myself something special. Since God brought me this far, I knew He would bring me farther to my dream.
For my 2016 ring, my flower ring symbolized my favorite quote, “Bloom where you are planted.” It was my second year of law school. It was still a transition moving to a new city where I did not know anyone and going to law school was a lot. In spite of the struggles, I wanted to continue to grow into the beautiful person God has called me to be.
For my 2017 ring, my “Believe” ring is a symbol to believe in God and myself. My mom always tells me that and it is true. I am in my final year of law school and I need to believe in myself. I am worthy of the great things God has in store for me. I need to keep believing.
You do not need to follow my lead. This is my personal journey. What I do want you to know is to love the skin you are in and treat yourself.
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.- 1 Peter 3:3-4
I know what you’re thinking…Bianca, what are you trying to say that I can’t pamper myself and look good!?! No, that is not what I am saying.
God fearfully and wonderfully made you for greatness. BUT, you don’t need to make yourself turn into something you are not. In society, beauty standards vary. You see campaigns with the “pretty, beautiful people.” People are pressured to look and be a certain way from social media, Hollywood, and the people in general. You don’t need to limit who you are to please society. Just be you!! Wear makeup for you, dress for you, BUT also show your light, your spirit, your personality. Being beautiful on inside is more important than the exterior. I have struggled with self esteem for most of my life. I tried to please people while I hurt inside. I had to learn that I had to love me as me and not what anyone else thinks.
Just love who you are because God loves you. Your inner beauty should shine and the outside should be a compliment and not the sum total of your being.
via Daily Prompt: Resist
So February is upon us. As a single person, your relationship status can stick out. So I want to boost your morale and give you 3 thoughts to resist.
- Resist the Thought:”I need to be in a relationship to have a good V-Day.” NO YOU DON’T!! There have been years where hanging out with friends and treating myself has been the best V-Day moments. Make plans for your single self. Treat Yo’ Self!!
- Resist doubting who you are. I took me many years to love and accept my spunky self. I am career-driven, I don’t play games with guys, and I have high standards. So that eliminates a lot of frogs. I still hold out hope that there is someone for me. But, for now, I Am Me. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
- Resist listing the things you don’t have. It is easy to say I am not getting flowers, I am not going to a fancy restaurant, no cute selfies and posts about my Valentine, etc. List the blessings you have. You probably already have an amazing life as a single person.
All in all, you are already awesome. If no one has told you that, well now you know!!
via Daily Prompt: Marathon
If you did not know, today is Martin Luther King Day. In our world, love is not a quick jog but a marathon. Till God decides to take His children home, it is a marathon to love your brother or sister who is different from you. We live in the same world and we need to love. So here are some of encouragement for this marathon of love from Dr. King and the King of Kings:
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.-Mark 12:31
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.-1 Peter 3:8
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.-1 Corinthians 10:24
I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.-Philippians 2:3
I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.-Hebrew 13:1-2
The time is always right to do what is right.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.-Galatians 6:2
Love one another, friends.
via Daily Prompt: Year
We have reached another year: 2017!!!
A habit I have is I tend to take care of everyone else and forget about myself. I need to be better about that. So this segment, I will talk more about myself and my journey. So I decided to make a new segment: Life as Bianca.
My goals for this year (I refuse to say resolutions):
- Graduate law school.
- Cook more.
- Save money and manage my money effectively.
- Learn how do a cat eye (Always wanted to learn).
- Paint and color more.
- Be a better blogger and reach more people.
- Do effective bar prep (Taking it February 2018).
- Spend more time getting into the Word and strengthen my faith more.
- Give out handwritten cards to people just because.
- Declutter the excess in my life.
- Continue to eliminate negativity whether by people or things.
- Run again.
- Do more community service/pro-bono work.
- Be more organized and stick to a schedule.
- Speak more Creole.
- Make career choices towards my future (finding a job).
- Spend less time on technology (easier said than done)
I know…it’s quite a list. Each year that passes, I want to keep growing and keep striving for excellence. I hope you all will join me on this journey. Make a list and stick to it. Tell me what you want to accomplish in 2017.
Well 2016 is almost over. It’s really been something. My year has been a rollercoaster of great times and moments to hard lessons to learn. But we have lived to see another year. 2017 can be greater than the last. So for my last post of 2016, I will give you 5 Blissful Tips to Remember going Forward into 2017.
- The setbacks of 2016 are lessons if you don’t allow them to keep you down in 2017. If you did not know, life is not a perfect cloud of happiness. You have to get up and brush yourself off. Don’t let the failures overtake you and do not let people use it against you. Your story is YOUR STORY. Take ownership of your life. Keep moving forward.
- Be thankful for what you have but keep a hunger for what you want to have. Your goals and dreams are valid. No matter where you are, no matter how old you are, no matter how much time you lost, as long as there is breath in your body, you can achieve anything. Hustle hard!!
- Eliminate, Eliminate, Eliminate. Know that you have one life to live. You have purpose in life. And you have a divine right to remove, unfriend,and separate yourself from toxic people and things who make it their business to infringe negativity on your life. Take your life back!!!
- Indulge Yourself. Take care of yourself mind, body, and spirit. Only you can determine what you need. Treat yourself every once in a while.
- Keep God first. I will always keep going back to that but it’s true. God is perfect and all-knowing. He knows your heart and your passions. Trust His truth, Trust His Word.
May you all have a Happy New Year. Keep moving forward, keep God first, love the skin you are in, and strive for excellence. Love you all. Thank you being on this journey with me these past four months!! See you in 2017!!!
If you did not know, Thanksgiving is today. For years, I have done daily thankful posts up until the holiday. But this year, I will do a different post of what I am thankful for. The underlying theme is the things and people I am thankful for is because God put in my path. So here I go:
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.-1 Chronicles 16:34
I am thankful for salvation in Jesus. He is the hope that I cling to. His love never fails me. He has provided for me in so many ways. There is no end to His love and provision for me.
Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.-Colossians 3:16-17
I am thankful for my family and friends who love and care about me. I would not be the person I am today without them. Though my circle may be smaller, these are the people who look out for me and have the character of Christ. I love you all.
You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God. This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God.-2 Corinthians 9:11-12
Even though law school stresses me out and makes me lose sleep, I am thankful for my education. I was able to be in my school’s Immigrant and Human Rights Clinic. The experiences I have had are a blessing. I have loved working with clients. I won my first case with my client. I have learned so much about myself. I am truly meant to be a lawyer. A year from now, I will be graduating from law school. I am almost there. I am thankful for the experiences I have had in law school.
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.-1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
2016 have had alot of highs and lows but God has used every experience to grow my faith and shape me. The world has been hurt on many occasions but God gives hope in every circumstance.
Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth!
Serve the Lord with gladness!
Come into his presence with singing!
Know that the Lord, he is God!
It is he who made us, and we are his;
we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.
Enter his gates with thanksgiving,
and his courts with praise!
Give thanks to him; bless his name!
For the Lord is good;
his steadfast love endures forever,
and his faithfulness to all generations.- Psalm 100 I am thankful for 26 years on this earth. Many new things have happened. I am still learning as I go. I am thankful that God has not left me or given up on me.
Oh give thanks to the Lord; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples!-1 Chronicles 16:8 I am thankful to my followers. My blog, Blissfully Bianca would not be possible without my followers and fellow bloggers. Thank you for welcoming me into this great community. Love you all.
P.S. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.-2 Corinthians 4:15. I said what I am thankful for. Now, you need to tell me what you are thankful for? (No, this is not a rhetorical question. This is an open dialogue)
via Daily Prompt: Filthy
As a pre-teen until my early 20s, I thought my skin was filthy. Not because I did not shower, but because I had more melanin than my friends. I was teased by my white classmates for “acting white” and teased by my black classmates for “not being black enough.” I was at war with the fact that I was an”Oreo.” I just wanted to be me but I felt like I needed to change colors to whoever I was talking to. Sometimes when I showered, I would try to see if I could be lighter if I scrubbed harder. I remembered as a kid thinking if I drank white milk, then I would be white. When my mom told me that my color would not change, I said “So I’ll be like this forever!?!”
One of my favorite Bible verses I like to declare is Psalm 139:14: I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
It was not enough to read this verse but believe this verse and make it my truth. Being at war with the color of my skin was telling God, “You made a mistake on me.” FYI: If you did not know, God does not make mistakes.
The filthy sin I battled with was the envy of my neighbor’s physical skin. Sin is the filthy skin I battle with but the beauty is Jesus died for the filthy things I say, do, and think about myself.
Fast forward today, I love my black skin because God fearfully and wonderfully made me that way. My features are in the image of my Creator. I do not need to label myself the way society believes me to be but the way my Heavenly Father sees me: Sanctified, Sassy, Smart, Silly, Quirky, Beautiful, Blissful Bianca, Future Esq.
I will encourage you with this: You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Your features are beautiful because God made them before your parents even knew you. You are not a mistake but a gift. You are special. Love who you are because you are priceless in the King’s Eyes.