Mama B’s Values

In the world we live in, important values tend to take a backseat to greed, sin, violence, and many harmful things. So Mama B wants to break the cycle and give you values to keep in mind.

  1. Love Jesus. I am biased but Jesus has never steered me wrong. Jesus has a purpose for you. Jesus loves you so much He went on the Cross and rose. What greater love can you find.
  2. Love yourself. There is one YOU. Value who you are. No person can love you, besides Jesus, that could fill the insecurities you deal with.
  3. Find your purpose. I believe that we are all placed on this Earth for a reason. It may take time but to live in your purpose is a great feeling.
  4. Listen and learn from people. As humans, we are created differently. We may not all agree but you can learn from one another.
  5. Kindness goes a long way.
  6. Have good character. You can make or break your reputation based on your character.

A few of many values I have but this is a start. Love you all.



Summer Bucket List Life As Bianca

Hi Friends,

Summer is happening!! YAY!! It is my last summer as a student so I want to make it COUNT!

My Summer Bucket List:

  • Find a legal internship
  • Do pro-bono/volunteer work
  • Pass summer classes
  • Beach Day/Pool Day
  • Go to a Food Truck Event
  • Manicure/Pedicure Day
  • Buy a romper
  • Have a kick-but 27th birthday
  • Paint Day
  • Watch a Summer Movie
  • Try a new restaurant
  • Declutter my closet
  • Attend a cultural/artistic event
  • Have a Senior Photoshoot
  • Have lunch/coffee with someone I have not seen in a while
  • Watch Fireworks
  • Read Proverbs and Romans 


I encourage you to make summer list of things you want to do and experience. I made my list. I want to give you some advice on the process.

  1. Be practical. I will not have time to skydive this summer so yeah. But I plan things that I can do with the time I have.
  2. Mix it up. Include different activities or goals. You don’t have to be limited going out all the time. You can do stuff at home too.
  3. Go wild or go little on the list. Whether by quantity or quality of items, make your list for you.
  4. Get your family and friends involved. Why not have experiences with the people in your circle!?!
  5. Have fun!

So tell me what’s your summer bucket list.



A Word from Mama B!

Can Mama B be real with you?

God saved me from some interesting boy crushes in my day especially in high school. There were crushes that I had that were so popular, hot and buff. I was a nerdy, invisible, awkward teenager. I would fantasize holding hands in the hallways, eating lunch with the beautiful, popular kids, having an instant date to prom and homecoming, receiving Valentine’s Day gifts, and so many other couples things. But that was then…this is now.

He’s balding. He did not apply himself after high school. His once chisel, sexy body has been replaced with a gut. He is still believes he is still in high school. He is immature and complains about politics. He picks fights with people on social media. Yet, the nerdy, invisible, awkward teenager is now a social butterfly who is still awkward but better off.

The moral of the story: Buff high school popularity can last for so long.




A Queen Is A Champion of Her Empire


I love what this quote represents.  My mom always reminds me to rely on God and myself.  She always encourages me to keep chasing and fighting for my dreams. A man is not the sum total of my life. A man’s presence is an addition to my empire.

A champion does not wait for someone to carry them. A champion works hard, stays humble, and keeps fighting. A Queen does not need a king to make her empire great. She is a champion in her own right. A Queen only needs her HEAVENLY KING and herself.

Colossians 3:23-24  “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,  since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”




An Ode to the Queens

You are strong.

You are beautiful.

You are wise.

You are defined by the Creator who calls you Beloved.

You are married, single, engaged, widowed, and divorced. 

You are Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, and Multiracial. 

You cover a spectrum of amazing careers.

You break ceilings.

You march for the cause.

You are a role model.

Humanity was birthed through you.

You take care of  your Kingdom from sun-up to sun-down, and through the night.

You are a Queen.

Don’t let anyone tell you less.

You are valid and worthy of life, love, and peace.

You are a Queen.




The 26th Valentine Manifesto

via Daily Prompt: Expectation


First off, Happy Valentine’s Day from Blissfully Bianca! It is my 26th Single Lady Valentine’s Day. The older I get, the more I realize that I should not settle.

For many years, I expected for love to be like the movies. I expected to find someone to post cute selfies/written posts about my valentine. I expected to hold hands, go on dates, get flowers, etc. I only saw the superficial love that I saw around me. It took time for me to realize that love was not  just the physical. It was the emotional, spiritual, and relational

I expected that love would be complete with a person. WRONG!! A person would not complete my life. Only God could do that.

I expected to be a certain way in order to find someone. WRONG!! I needed to love myself and the person God created me to be. I needed to realize that I should not waiver on the standards I want for a God-fearing man.

I expected that I should “put myself out there and go into the dating pool to see what I like. I needed to realize that I do not like games and temporary fixes to make me worthy enough to date. It’s ok to not date the frogs, lizards, chameleons, and pigs. God is the one who determines and directs my steps to my husband.

I expected that if I was not married with children by 30, I  would an old maid. I realize that my season of life is finishing school, finding out the woman I want to be, living independently, and figuring out what I like in life. Life does not end in my 20s. My life is continuing to change and will continue. No old maid here.

To sum up my Manifesto: A romantic relationship is not the sum total of your being. It is the part of the blessing that God has given you. God is (and should be) the sum total of your life. He loves you more in a lifetime than any other person. He sent His Only Son to do the ultimate sacrifice to save sinners like you and me. That is love!! So if you are single, taken, engaged, it’s complicated, brokenhearted, or so in love, Jesus is still madly in love with you. There is wholeness in Him. No matter how much you mess up, He still loves you. 

No matter what your expectations are, God’s expectations for your life and Valentine’s Day are higher and better. You are still valuable and loved. You are awesome and fearfully and wonderfully made by the Creator. God is still writing your life and love story. Love, trust, and believe in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.



A Word from Mama B!

Can Mama B be real with you?

I have found my voice!! Not literally, but figuratively. I loved to be liked and loved by everyone. People’s opinions mattered to me.

Fast forward to today, my voice is much loud and bolder. I am not being too obnoxious but I know what I deserve in life. My God says that I can have life abundantly in Him and that does not include negative, toxic people. Elimination of toxic people make my life freer to things that matter like school, family, my true friends, and most importantly, God.

It was hard at first cutting people off because I would be hurting their feelings. But, I needed peace of mind.

So I will encourage you with this:

If you value myself, you won’t give people discounts to hurt you or pull you down.There are moments where it is ok to be selfish and take care of your well-being. You deserve to love and be loved by genuine people who have your best interest at heart.  

Mama B loves you so take care of yourself and everything will work out for the better.



A Word from Mama B!

Over dinner with friends, of course love and relationships  is part of the dinner conversation. We talked about experiences regarding broken hearts, awkward love situations, etc. A recent experience gave me the wonderful phrase: Be the main dish, not the side dish. 

Mama B’s definition of a side dish is something or someone who is replaceable. You can have as many sides as you want at different times. You are pretty much temporary. There is no certainty that you could get chosen. You are just one of many. NOT THE WAY TO GO.

The main dish is something that is #1. You need it and want it.  The relationship meal is not complete without the main dish. You love it and you don’t need anything else to compliment it. It just is.

What I mean by this Mama B-ism is that: Do not settle by having someone play with your heart and emotions. You deserve to love and be loved. Value yourself and realize that you deserve to be the main event, not something on the side.


For Example: You want to be the steak, not the mashed potatoes that could be replaced with french fries that could be replaced with asparagus that could be replaced with green beans.  

Or you have the option of picking two sides. You pick two sides, asparagus and mashed potatoes (but french fries and green beans get hurt and left out)

You want to be the Steak in this scenario.

This goes for the ladies and the guys. Be the main dish, not the side dish. Sometimes food is the way I reference life situations. Don’t question the analogy. Just live like you are the main dish, not the side dish.



P.S. Side dishes should be for lunch and dinner, not love and relationships.

A Word from Mama B!

Can Mama B be real with you? As a single lady, the older I get, the less things bother me.

From my teen years into my early 20s, I would think of my ideal guy and think that I found him in someone. I would dream about dates we would have, our futures, the cute selfies we would take, becoming “Facebook official,” the romantic surprises/flowers that I would post on social media in order to make my friends jealous, etc.

My reality was either he saw me as a friend/sister than a girlfriend or he liked someone else (NO!!). I would have a  Taylor Swift, “Teardrops on My Guitar” moment and feel inadequate as a woman. Then, thoughts of “forever alone” and “single till the rapture” takes over and “I will never find someone”.

Fast forward to today: Recently I had feelings for someone and one of the usual scenarios occurred AND NOTHING HAPPENED!! WHAT!?!

Yup, nothing happened. I said ok and moved on. What was the difference between my teens/early 20s to now? Math.

Yes, math. Don’t stop reading!! Follow me on this.

When I was younger, I thought a relationship was the sum total of my life. Everything I am and and do depends on living up to impress a guy. If I did not find someone, it was something I did to mess up everything. I thought that if I could live up to a guy’s expectations, then I would be the perfect girlfriend. Right? WRONG!!!!

Now 2016, finding someone is an addition to who I am as a person. A guy is not the sum total of who I am.  I have a path that God has designed for me. God has provided so many blessings for me. A relationship would be another addition to the blessings I already have. If a guy does not have feelings for me, then God is doing me a favor.

Life goes on. I still have my education, my family, my friends, my health, etc.  God defines who I am. And God knows my heart and my desires. God (if He does)  has someone designed for me: Someone that fits me and I do not have to limit or compromise who I am to please him. We will grow together, challenge one another, be equally yoked to each other, and follow Christ together. But now, I am just Bianca, and I am content with that.

To my SINGLE guys and gals, your value does not revolve around a relationship or finding someone. God values and loves you. Yes, YOU!! He sent His Son, Jesus to die for you and He ROSE after three days!! He is the Ultimate Matchmaker. Value and love yourself. The right person will come along.

This is a lesson that I have and continue to learn about love and relationships. I cannot speak for all single people but this is my take.