A quick thought: In this political climate, I have seen more chaos and rage between friends, family, and acquaintances played out on television, social media, radio, and any communication outlet you can think of. It is easy to say “I’m RIGHT, You’re WRONG.” But remember friends, it takes so much energy and time to rage. You do not need to fight every battle with every person on the Earth.
Instead, take a step back, breathe, listen and hear them out. You do not need to agree with them. Respect them. Find common ground. Relate. Maybe not the conflicted issue but something else. Find things that unite rather than divide us.
Fluff is NOT needed except for desserts and pillows.
I have learned it is important to be selfish especially if it has to do with your well-being. I know I am being redundant but it is vital to take care of your mind, body, and spirit.
When you have your standards, keep them. Don’t let it waiver.
If you dash through life, you will miss out.
Appreciate how far you have come.
See the colors of nature.
Look up to heaven and smile.
God is on your side.
He does not rush but has purpose in His actions.
Don’t let life pass you by.
Enjoy the present while you still can.
Another year older, another year of lessons going forward.
You and Me are walking through the journey of life.
If God has granted you life, make a choice to follow Jesus.
Know that not every person you started with will end with you
Do not apologize for making yourself a priority.
Make hard decisions.
Think before you speak.
Maintain a level of poise and class even with the haters.
Be a magnet of positivity.
Do your best.
I remember for the longest time being the friend who meddled and invested my time, energy, and resources to the people around me. I felt like it was my job to save everyone even at the expense of my own happiness. I tell you it is draining.
There is nothing wrong with caring about people, BUT it is important to take care of your needs too. Some people you invest in may only bring you further down. Your constant, toxic investment in someone will divest your life and well-being. I have had to separate myself from toxic people. Their drama and issues made me feel worse. There was no give and take; it was me giving while they took. I would be drained and unhappy.
Moral of the Story: Care about yourself. Know that your mind, heart, and being matters too. Let no person still your joy. Eliminate the people who steal your joy and do not support you in your time of need. Do not be afraid to make yourself a priority.
So even though I am single (and have been for 26 years), I have tried to be a strong, independent, “I don’t need a man,” career girl who loves Jesus, her family, and her friends. I come up with many reasons why I am single and should be single. I wave my feminist flag. I wave the “Jesus is my boyfriend” flag. I wave my “I am woman. Here me roar” flag. Some days I feel great as a single person. But there are some days where I feel annoyed being single.
There are some days where the flags don’t do anything. There are days where the reasons why I am single don’t help. Even encouragement and empowerment from other women do not help. I find myself jiggling and being anxious. Will I find someone? I am just going to be alone like this? Why is there not at least a prospect? Is there something wrong with me? Am I coming on too intense? Where did I go wrong? My jiggling starts turning into an anxious earthquake of emotions.
I know what you are going to say.
- Bianca, God is preparing you in this season for your husband.
- Bianca, a relationship is just so much; believe me, you are better off single
- Bianca, be content
- Bianca, it’s ok to wait..
- You are a great person, Bianca and God has someone especially made for you.
- etc. etc. etc. blah blah
I have heard all of these and then some. But I am being truthful. It is not easy to be single and not fool around. It is not easy when 99.9% of your friends are in relationships or married. It is not easy to see your social media filled with babies, boyfriends, engagement ring selfies, cute couples hashtags, etc. It is not easy where your once single lady alliance decreases because your single friends are finding love while you are STILL waiting. It is not easy to be set apart with the world telling you to let your freak flag fly and experiment. It is not easy…
There are moments when Mama B has “jiggle moments.” My mind moves quick in thoughts of “Is my singlehood permanent?” “What is next besides graduation and work?” I believe it is a normal feeling to have but it should not be a feeling that overtakes and overwhelms.
So to my single friends (wherever you are), it’s ok to hurt and jiggle but don’t let your jiggling be an anxious natural disaster. Keep picking yourself up. We are gonna be just fine.
via Daily Prompt: Marathon
If you did not know, today is Martin Luther King Day. In our world, love is not a quick jog but a marathon. Till God decides to take His children home, it is a marathon to love your brother or sister who is different from you. We live in the same world and we need to love. So here are some of encouragement for this marathon of love from Dr. King and the King of Kings:
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.-Mark 12:31
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.-1 Peter 3:8
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.-1 Corinthians 10:24
I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.-Philippians 2:3
I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.-Hebrew 13:1-2
The time is always right to do what is right.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.-Galatians 6:2
Love one another, friends.