Obligatory Thankful Blog Post

Obligatory Thankful Blog Post


If you did not know, Thanksgiving is today. For years, I have done daily thankful posts up until the holiday. But this year, I will do a different post of what I am thankful for. The underlying theme is the things and people I am thankful for is because God put in my path. So here I go:

Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.-1 Chronicles 16:34 
I am thankful for salvation in Jesus. He is the hope that I cling to. His love never fails me. He has provided for me in so many ways. There is no end to His love and provision for me.
 Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.-Colossians 3:16-17 
 I am thankful for my family and friends who love and care about me. I would not be the person I am today without them.  Though my circle may be smaller, these are the people who look out for me and have the character of Christ. I love you all.
You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God. This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God.-2 Corinthians 9:11-12
Even though law school stresses me out and makes me lose sleep, I am thankful for my education. I was able to be in my school’s Immigrant and Human Rights Clinic. The experiences I have had are a blessing. I have loved working with clients. I won my first case with my client.  I have learned so much about myself. I am truly meant to be a lawyer. A year from now, I will be graduating from law school. I am almost there. I am thankful for the experiences I have had in law school.
Rejoice always,  pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.-1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 
2016 have had alot of highs and lows but God has used every experience to grow my faith and shape me. The world has been hurt on many occasions but God gives hope in every circumstance.

Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth!
Serve the Lord with gladness!
Come into his presence with singing!

Know that the Lord, he is God!
It is he who made us, and we are his;
we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.

Enter his gates with thanksgiving,
and his courts with praise!
Give thanks to him; bless his name!

For the Lord is good;
his steadfast love endures forever,
and his faithfulness to all generations.- Psalm 100 I am thankful for 26 years on this earth. Many new things have happened. I am still learning as I go. I am thankful that God has not left me or given up on me.

Oh give thanks to the Lord; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples!-1 Chronicles 16:8  I am thankful to my followers. My blog, Blissfully Bianca would not be possible without my followers and fellow bloggers. Thank you for  welcoming me into this great community. Love you all.


P.S. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.-2 Corinthians 4:15. I said what I am thankful for. Now, you need to tell me what you are thankful for? (No, this is not a rhetorical question. This is an open dialogue)


The Story of the Filthy Oreo

The Story of the Filthy Oreo

via Daily Prompt: Filthy

As a pre-teen until my early 20s, I thought my skin was filthy. Not because I did not shower, but because I had more melanin than my friends. I was teased by my white classmates  for “acting white” and teased by my black classmates for “not being black enough.” I was at war with the fact that I was  an”Oreo.” I just wanted to be me but I felt like I needed to change colors to whoever I was talking to. Sometimes when I showered, I would try to see if I could be lighter if I scrubbed harder. I remembered as a kid thinking if I drank white milk, then I would be white. When my mom told me that my color would not change, I said “So I’ll be like this forever!?!”

One of my favorite Bible verses I like to declare is Psalm 139:14: I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.


It was not enough to read this verse but believe this verse and make it my truth. Being at war with the color of my skin was telling God, “You made a mistake on me.” FYI: If you did not know, God does not make mistakes.  

The filthy sin I battled with was the envy of my neighbor’s physical skin. Sin is the filthy skin I battle with but the beauty is Jesus died for the filthy things I say, do, and think about myself. 

Fast forward today, I love my black skin because God fearfully and wonderfully made me that way. My features are in the image of my Creator. I do not need to label myself the way society believes me to be but the way my Heavenly Father sees me: Sanctified, Sassy, Smart, Silly, Quirky, Beautiful, Blissful Bianca, Future Esq.

img_2047I will encourage you with this: You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Your features are beautiful because God made them before your parents even knew you. You are not a mistake but a gift. You are special. Love who you are because you are priceless in the King’s Eyes.



Will You Stand for Me?

Will You Stand for Me?

You say you love me, will you stand for me?

Will you stand for my black life when I am racially profiled, stereotyped, and mistreated ?

You believe in the sanctity of an unborn child, but will you stand for the orphans whose parents are  being deported?

You believe in traditional marriage but will you stand for the homosexual who is hungry, sick, and tired of being bullied?

You believe in loving your neighbor but will you stand for your neighbor who is Muslim when their property is vandalized?

You believe that God created woman from man in God’s image but will you stand for a woman who is assaulted and violated?

You believe in grace and forgiveness but do you truly forgive your brothers and sisters?

He said if you love me, feed my sheep, will you?

Will you stand for Me?




My Lenses on Life

My Lenses on Life

Hello Friends,

This is a new segment of my blog. The world through my lenses is a different place. Experiences define how I see the world. Additionally, I am in law school so I see the legal worldview in various cases.  The biggest worldview I draw my beliefs from is Jesus Christ and His Law. This is not pushing a political agenda on everyone but I am giving you my worldview through a Biblical lens.

My worldview topic today is discrimination in minority communities. The Bible says that God made man in His image (Genesis 1:26). There is no part in the Bible where a race is more purer or flawless than the other. God says that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).

Because of the fall of Adam, we, as the HUMAN RACE, fall short everyday. No one is perfect but most people try to live good, decent lives and keep moving forward. But that is not always the case…Some people discriminate and punish others who are just trying to live.

It seems like our society is “comfortable” with racial profiling and killing unarmed minorities, for whatever reason. I understand that police officers have a duty to serve and protect. I also know that not all police officers are bad cops but there is a problem when minorities get shot and killed (even though they were peaceful) from certain police officers just because they look suspicious. A current event of what I stated was  Terence Crutcher, a person complying with officers but he looked like a “bad dude.” What do you mean by that? He was father driving home from night school.

When I see stories like this, I get afraid and scared for my father and brother. They are the sweetest and calmest people you would ever meet. But the word, father, brother, person, does not matter when your skin is dark. I am afraid for them in the sense that a police officer or any person would say “he looks funny,” “he looks like a bad dude,” “he looks suspicious” may mean a shot in the back. 

PEOPLE!!!! We need to see our men, no matter what color they are, as father, sons, nephews, uncles, veterans, law-abiding citizens, students, etc. As a Christian and a person, I see people AS PEOPLE. There are good ones and bad ones. This “trend” hurts. It hurts my community. It hurts my family. Whether you deny it or not, it affects people you know and love.

Church people, WE NEED TO STAND FOR OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS. Injustice against one person affects us all. If we want the world to love and follow Jesus, we need to stand up for believers and people who are unjustly mistreated, not just the unborn babies. 

You cannot turn a blind eye away from this growing issue. The bad police officers who take the life of innocent people SHOULD BE PUNISHED. The system needs to reform and hold the people who are supposed to protect us accountable. 

People, we cannot keep hating one another as if God made a mistake creating someone different than you. You and your works are filthy rags. You need a Savior just like me. Jesus  did not come for the white people or the American people. Jesus came to the whole World. He breathed existence to everything we have today. We need to love and see people as God’s Creation. We need to judge by character, not by skin color. 

I will end with this Scripture:

Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals,and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food. 30 And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds in the sky and all the creatures that move along the ground—everything that has the breath of life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so. God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.-Genesis 1:26-31




A Word from Mama B!

A Word from Mama B!

Over dinner with friends, of course love and relationships  is part of the dinner conversation. We talked about experiences regarding broken hearts, awkward love situations, etc. A recent experience gave me the wonderful phrase: Be the main dish, not the side dish. 

Mama B’s definition of a side dish is something or someone who is replaceable. You can have as many sides as you want at different times. You are pretty much temporary. There is no certainty that you could get chosen. You are just one of many. NOT THE WAY TO GO.

The main dish is something that is #1. You need it and want it.  The relationship meal is not complete without the main dish. You love it and you don’t need anything else to compliment it. It just is.

What I mean by this Mama B-ism is that: Do not settle by having someone play with your heart and emotions. You deserve to love and be loved. Value yourself and realize that you deserve to be the main event, not something on the side.


For Example: You want to be the steak, not the mashed potatoes that could be replaced with french fries that could be replaced with asparagus that could be replaced with green beans.  

Or you have the option of picking two sides. You pick two sides, asparagus and mashed potatoes (but french fries and green beans get hurt and left out)

You want to be the Steak in this scenario.

This goes for the ladies and the guys. Be the main dish, not the side dish. Sometimes food is the way I reference life situations. Don’t question the analogy. Just live like you are the main dish, not the side dish.



P.S. Side dishes should be for lunch and dinner, not love and relationships.

A Word from Mama B!

A Word from Mama B!

Can Mama B be real with you? As a single lady, the older I get, the less things bother me.

From my teen years into my early 20s, I would think of my ideal guy and think that I found him in someone. I would dream about dates we would have, our futures, the cute selfies we would take, becoming “Facebook official,” the romantic surprises/flowers that I would post on social media in order to make my friends jealous, etc.

My reality was either he saw me as a friend/sister than a girlfriend or he liked someone else (NO!!). I would have a  Taylor Swift, “Teardrops on My Guitar” moment and feel inadequate as a woman. Then, thoughts of “forever alone” and “single till the rapture” takes over and “I will never find someone”.

Fast forward to today: Recently I had feelings for someone and one of the usual scenarios occurred AND NOTHING HAPPENED!! WHAT!?!

Yup, nothing happened. I said ok and moved on. What was the difference between my teens/early 20s to now? Math.

Yes, math. Don’t stop reading!! Follow me on this.

When I was younger, I thought a relationship was the sum total of my life. Everything I am and and do depends on living up to impress a guy. If I did not find someone, it was something I did to mess up everything. I thought that if I could live up to a guy’s expectations, then I would be the perfect girlfriend. Right? WRONG!!!!

Now 2016, finding someone is an addition to who I am as a person. A guy is not the sum total of who I am.  I have a path that God has designed for me. God has provided so many blessings for me. A relationship would be another addition to the blessings I already have. If a guy does not have feelings for me, then God is doing me a favor.

Life goes on. I still have my education, my family, my friends, my health, etc.  God defines who I am. And God knows my heart and my desires. God (if He does)  has someone designed for me: Someone that fits me and I do not have to limit or compromise who I am to please him. We will grow together, challenge one another, be equally yoked to each other, and follow Christ together. But now, I am just Bianca, and I am content with that.

To my SINGLE guys and gals, your value does not revolve around a relationship or finding someone. God values and loves you. Yes, YOU!! He sent His Son, Jesus to die for you and He ROSE after three days!! He is the Ultimate Matchmaker. Value and love yourself. The right person will come along.

This is a lesson that I have and continue to learn about love and relationships. I cannot speak for all single people but this is my take.