The 26th Valentine Manifesto

The 26th Valentine Manifesto

via Daily Prompt: Expectation

Expectation

First off, Happy Valentine’s Day from Blissfully Bianca! It is my 26th Single Lady Valentine’s Day. The older I get, the more I realize that I should not settle.

For many years, I expected for love to be like the movies. I expected to find someone to post cute selfies/written posts about my valentine. I expected to hold hands, go on dates, get flowers, etc. I only saw the superficial love that I saw around me. It took time for me to realize that love was not  just the physical. It was the emotional, spiritual, and relational

I expected that love would be complete with a person. WRONG!! A person would not complete my life. Only God could do that.

I expected to be a certain way in order to find someone. WRONG!! I needed to love myself and the person God created me to be. I needed to realize that I should not waiver on the standards I want for a God-fearing man.

I expected that I should “put myself out there and go into the dating pool to see what I like. I needed to realize that I do not like games and temporary fixes to make me worthy enough to date. It’s ok to not date the frogs, lizards, chameleons, and pigs. God is the one who determines and directs my steps to my husband.

I expected that if I was not married with children by 30, I  would an old maid. I realize that my season of life is finishing school, finding out the woman I want to be, living independently, and figuring out what I like in life. Life does not end in my 20s. My life is continuing to change and will continue. No old maid here.

To sum up my Manifesto: A romantic relationship is not the sum total of your being. It is the part of the blessing that God has given you. God is (and should be) the sum total of your life. He loves you more in a lifetime than any other person. He sent His Only Son to do the ultimate sacrifice to save sinners like you and me. That is love!! So if you are single, taken, engaged, it’s complicated, brokenhearted, or so in love, Jesus is still madly in love with you. There is wholeness in Him. No matter how much you mess up, He still loves you. 

No matter what your expectations are, God’s expectations for your life and Valentine’s Day are higher and better. You are still valuable and loved. You are awesome and fearfully and wonderfully made by the Creator. God is still writing your life and love story. Love, trust, and believe in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Blissful Thoughts to Resist As A Single Person in February

Blissful Thoughts to Resist As A Single Person in February

via Daily Prompt: Resist

So February is upon us. As a single person, your relationship status can stick out. So I want to boost your morale and give you 3 thoughts to resist.

  1. Resist the Thought:”I need to be in a relationship to have a good V-Day.” NO YOU DON’T!! There have been years where hanging out with friends and treating myself has been the best V-Day moments. Make plans for your single self. Treat Yo’ Self!!
  2. Resist doubting who you are. I took me many years to love and accept my spunky self. I am career-driven, I don’t play games with guys, and I have high standards. So that eliminates a lot of frogs. I still hold out hope that there is someone for me. But, for now, I Am Me. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
  3. Resist listing the things you don’t have. It is easy to say I am not getting flowers, I am not going to a fancy restaurant, no cute selfies and posts about my Valentine, etc. List the blessings you have. You probably already have an amazing life as a single person.

All in all, you are already awesome. If no one has told you that, well now you know!!

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Blissfully,

Bianca

A Word from Mama B

A Word from Mama B

 

Can Mama B be real with you?

The older I get, the more I could care less about finding a mate. I have never been in a relationship before but I have been on blind dates before (another story for another time).

I remember from middle school to college, I dreaded love month because I knew that I was not going to receive a big teddy bear or roses or dinner plans. I would be so cynical when inside, I would be depressed that I was the single girl with friends in relationships, engaged, getting married.

I almost thought that something was wrong me. That I would end up being the old woman who lived in the old abandoned house at the end of the street (dramatic..yes). But that was then…

Fast forward to today, this will be my 26th Single V-Day. Does it bother me? Sometimes. Do I let overtake me? No.

My love life is one part of me. There are other parts of my life that I am thankful for. So, even though my singlehood shows, it does not make me less of a person if I were with someone. img_0189

I am in my last year of graduate school, I have my health, I have a great support system, I have Jesus (what more could a girl need). I kinda could care less if I had a boyfriend  (but I do want a dog). He would just be a part of my already amazing life.

If I am in a relationship, great. If I am not in a relationship, that’s just fine too. To my single folks, you are doing great. You still have a purpose in life. If someone happens to be beside you, that’s great. If not, you are still great.

Blissfully,

Bianca